Sexy A to Z – S

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I am sharing something each day (not always every day in a row) covering the alphabet until I reach Z!  Here we are at day 19!  I am sharing topics having to do with sex, BDSM and/or kink.  These topics are of things I am curious to learn about, love to know more about or just love to share.

If you have anything to add or have something else in that alphabet letter to share, please do so in the comments below.

Today’s sexy letter of the alphabet is:

S: Submission & Sensation Play

Definitions:

Submission –

**the condition of being submissive, humble, or compliant
– an act of submitting to the authority or control of another (Merriam-Webster)
**The action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person. (Urban Dictionary)
**Submission refers to a set of sexual rituals, behaviors, and customs where individuals willingly hand over control of their bodies to their partners. While submission mainly occurs during erotic episodes, some couples integrate this ritual during their daily life. The partner who takes the upper hand position is normally known as a Dom, or Dominant. The inferior or willingly docile partner is referred to as the sub or submissive. (Kinkly)

Sensation Play –

**Erotic sensation play is a class of activities meant to impart physical sensations upon a partner, as opposed to mental forms of erotic play such as power exchange or sexual roleplaying.

Sensation play can be sensual, where the sensations are generally pleasing and light. Many couples that would not consider themselves active in BDSM are familiar with this kind of play: the use of silk scarves, feathers, ice, massage oils, and other similar implements.

Sensation play in BDSM can also involve sadomasochistic play, involving the application of carefully controlled stimuli to the human body so that it reacts as if it were actually hurt. While this can involve the infliction of actual pain, it is usually done in order to release pleasurable endorphins, creating a sensation somewhat like runner’s high or the afterglow of orgasm, sometimes called “flying” or “body stress”. (Wikipedia)

**Sensation play describes a wide variety of activities, both vanilla and kinky, that use the body’s senses as a way to arouse and provide stimulation to a partner.

Although sensation play is often related to skin sensations, it doesn’t have to be so limited. Sight, taste, and hearing can also be included in sensation play. (Kinkly)

Personally :

I put Submission and Sensation Play here together because they can go together in a scene.

As you see above, submission is giving up control to a dominant person or one of authority.  And in a D/s relationship, the submissive gives up control to the Dominant in either scenes or in daily life.  It depends on which they have agreed upon.

Also as above, sensation play is one of playing with the senses which can be done in both a “vanilla” relationship as well as a “kinky” relationship.

I have read about, known others that have experienced and myself have experienced the relationship of submission and sensation play together in a scene.

Where the submissive gives the Dominant control to play with their sensations.  They will either go slow and gentle, moving up to intense.  Or straight out intense sensation play.  Depends on how far on the spectrum their Sadist and masochist natures are, to the level of the sensations.  😉

Join me on my next Sexy A to Z when I share the letter T!

#SoSS 2019 Overview

My Overall #SoSS of 2019

I have not shared my #S0SS for quite some time.  (I know…It’s not Saturday nor Sunday, but the need to share is there) 🙂   Going through things and trying to determine how I need to move forward in my life has taken me away from doing my norm here on my blog.

I decided there is a need to thank some people and share some things I have enjoyed from others and what others have seemed to enjoy of mine this past year.

First off –

I am so thankful to those I have come to know and get closer to this past year.  Being so blessed with new friends and acquaintances as well as my close friends and loves that were already in my life.  I have felt supported and loved throughout the year.  Especially with all I was going through to bring me down.  I am ready to move forward in my life and have been mulling over how this is going to go for me in the new year.

All I can say right now is, keep up with me, hang in there and find out what exciting things will be happening in the very near future!!

Now Onward with the past year’s #SoSS

I did a total of only 11 #SoSS posts this past year.  11!!!
That’s it! Thought it was more, but obviously not.

January

-First was in January on the 12th. I shared the prompts and memes I joined in on, and shared the top three I liked the most.  I also shared what I had written for the prompts and memes that week.  You can check it our Here.

I then did two more in January, on the 20th and the 26th.  Both were short but I always like to make sure I either share the top three stories chosen or the links to each of the prompts or memes so you can check them out for yourself! 🙂

February

-Sharing three of my #SoSS in February, on the 9th, 17th and 23rd.

On the 9th of February I shared some of the new prompts/memes to join in on, as well as the normal ones I like to share.

The 17th of February was one I was late for while participating in the Smut Marathon and I shared some recommendations given by the lovely Brigit Delaney.

Then on the 23rd of February I was excited to share that I participated in picking the top three for Masturbation Monday!

March

-In March I only shared one on the 3rd and in it I said a bit about what all I am learning being here and then shared some other things for all to check out and enjoy.  🙂

April

-In April there were two #SoSS posts.  It is during this month that I went to self-hosting so it was taking a some time to get used to the new way of doing things.

April 14th I shared my favorite posts from Masturbation Monday and Wicked Wednesday.

And on the 21st of April I was able to share my two posts I wrote for the week and then also the prompts/memes I share every week for all to participate in.

June

-I totally skipped May and went into June with one #SoSS for that month.

While participating in #EveryDamnDayInJune I did my #SoSS on the 10th of June. With this one I just shared some personal things about me.

August

-Once again I skipped a month and went to August, on the 2nd, for my next #SoSS share.  In this post I shared many podcast I have been listening to and enjoying and decided others might enjoy them too.

Finally

That was my last one for the year 2019.  So much happened in the year to get me off kilter and I am really hoping for this new year of 2020 to dive in to all my goals to accomplish in writing and sharing. They may not all happen but I am sure going to give it my best!!

Posts Of Mine That Were Shared:

*My post Mirror Time from January 7, 2019 was shared by Nicci Haydon on April 8, 2019.  Please give Nicci some love by going to her site and checking out all she has to offer!

*Asrai Devin shared my post Wicked Daddy from February 12, 2019 on March 9, 2019 under the “Erotic” title.  Check out all Asrai has to share on her site!

*On June 13, 2019 I wrote my post Fantasy In Poem and it was shared by Deviant Succubus on June 17 in her #SoSS post  Go give Deviant a visit! You won’t be disappointed!!

*Miss D shared my post from June 13, 2019 regarding People-Pleasing. She saw it on my blog and then shared it on her’s (Self Discovery)! This is why we share.  If we can reach one more person that has had a similar experience and either don’t know why or don’t even realize until they read about it, well it is one more person “in the know.”  Please give Miss D a visit and see what else she has to share!

*My Post 2 Souls On Fire from July 24, 2019 was shared by Posy Churchgate in her #SoSS post for August 2.  Hop on over to Posy’s blog and check out all the great topics she has to offer!

*On August 12, 2019 I shared a post named My Words To Live By and May More shared it on her #SoSS post on October 2.  May has so much to share and I think you will enjoy anything you come upon!  Give a look see and find out for yourself!

*Sharing my post of After Dinner Plans on September 4, 2019, caught the attention of Purplesole (One half of Purple’s Gem) and shared my post on September 5 for Masturbation Monday’s Roundup! Please take a bit to check out Purple’s Gem site and find the treasures that await. 😉

– Also sharing my After Dinner Plans post is Posy Churchgate in her #SoSS post of September 7! Thank you so much Posy! Once again, please give her blog a look-see!

*This Is My Fight Song is a post I shared on September 5, 2019.  It was part of the Music As Muse Month.  Marie Rebel of Rebel’s Notes shared it on her #SoSS post on September 7. Definitely give this lovely lady some love by going on her blog site and checking out all the wonderful posts, pictures and information she shares!

Thank you so much for all that shared my posts and those that commented when you could on some of my posts.  I really enjoy seeing that I either touch or bring some feelings to those that read my posts!  Once again, please give the bloggers above some love by visiting their sites.

Final Post Words

I hope you have enjoyed my sharing of 2019 posts and will come back to join me in other posts and writing I will do this year.

I have been on a time-out, per se.  But, I am slowly going to work myself back in to doing some things here and sharing.  I miss it a lot! Enjoy the rest of your week and thank you for joining me in this rather late post for the #SoSS of 2019. 🙂

 

 

Sexy A to Z – R

I am sharing something each day (not always every day in a row) covering the alphabet until I reach Z!  Here we are at day 18!  I am sharing topics having to do with sex, BDSM and/or kink.  These topics are of things I am curious to learn about, love to know more about or just love to share.

If you have anything to add or have something else in that alphabet letter to share, please do so in the comments below.

Today’s sexy letter of the alphabet is:

R: Role Play-

Definitions:

-To act and speak as if you are the character you’re portraying. To roleplay is as much about what not to say as what TO say. It means to keep your speech in the context of the setting in which your character (or avatar) exists. Context can be defined as both time and place. (Urban Dictionary)

-1: to act out the role of
2: to represent in action (Merriam-Webster)
-Make-believe and playing dress-up does not have to end when you grow up. Role playing is when people take on characters outside of their day-to-day lives as part of a sex scene. Common examples include doctor-patient (medical role play), boss-secretary, or pool boy–rich housewife. And who can forget the classic: schoolgirl-professor? While role playing often comes with costumes and is a fabulous excuse to dress up, costumes are not required. Scenes can be created through dirty talk and pure imagination. Feel free to use role playing to tap into alter egos or your favorite fictional characters. (Glamour.com)

Personally

Do you like role play?  Is it part of your kink or fetish?

Me? I enjoy diving into a role and playing it out.  Whether it be a school girl being disciplined or a naughty maid enticing the head of the house.  Or even just role playing a sexy woman in corset, stockings and heels.  Role playing to me ramps up the sexy connection between partners.  Makes it fun and sexy prior and during sex.

Brings that extra sexy something to the norm.  Keeps you both from becoming bored with the same thing over and over.  Granted, I like straight out sex like the next person.  Both the love-making sex or the down-and-dirty sex, but to have this other part helps too.

What do you think?

Next up I will be sharing the Letter S!

Sexy A to Z – Q

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I am sharing something each day (not always every day in a row) covering the alphabet until I reach Z!  Here we are at day 17!  I am sharing topics having to do with sex, BDSM and/or kink.  These topics are of things I am curious to learn about, love to know more about or just love to share.

If you have anything to add or have something else in that alphabet letter to share, please do so in the comments below.

Today’s sexy letter of the alphabet is:

Q: Queening

Definitions :

-Facesitting is a sexual practice in which a person sits or hovers over a partner’s face (also sometimes known as “Queening” particularly if a female is on top). (Kinkly)

-Basically Queening is where a woman positions herself to be sitting on, or straddling, the face of her partner. As you can imagine, it’s used to allow oral-genital, or oral-anal, stimulation. (mamamia)

-The sexual practice of facesitting (Wikipedia)

*Here I think the Urban Dictionary has the most in-depth definition I have found and very interesting:

-An ancient art in which a woman presses and rubs her genitalia and/or anus against the tongue, lips, and nose of her subordinate. She classically positions herself in a sitting on or straddling over another’s face facesitting. The first images of this can be seen in ancient Egyptian drawings, but it is known to have been a historic part of ancient Japanese, Chinese, Indian, Medieval European, Victorian and other cultures. Originally a way for upper class women (Queens included) who wished to achieve sexual gratification without becoming pregnant; be they a virgin or a wife with her husband unavailable. It was usually the job of male slaves and servants to submit to their mistresses desires, in Japan there were even brothels where women and girls would pay for male slaves specially trained in the art of queening.
Today queening is enjoyed by people the world over regardless of social status. In this age of balancing the feminine energy it seems to be a particularly useful way for women to feel empowered and can be equally enjoyable for whom they sit/ride upon. Just remember practice and focus will lead to skill for both people involved. (Urban Dictionary)

Personally :

I did not realize face-sitting was called Queening when a woman sat on top of her partner’s face! See, I learn something new all the time!! I know, some of you are amazed I didn’t know this, I am guessing.   That is me though. There are a lot of things I didn’t know and still do not know.  So I am definitely learning new things all the time.

I am always so afraid of the possibility of asphyxiation to a partner, so I understand you have to be careful and be aware at all times to not go completely down on the face.  But ohhh, how nice it is to be in this particular position!

I am sure there are soooo many stories out there about this particular position.  Any one, any one??

See you next time when I share the Letter R! 🙂

 

Sexy A to Z – P

I am sharing something each day (not always every day in a row) covering the alphabet until I reach Z!  Here we are at day 16!  I am sharing topics having to do with sex, BDSM and/or kink.  These topics are of things I am curious to learn about, love to know more about or just love to share.

If you have anything to add or have something else in that alphabet letter to share, please do so in the comments below.

Today’s sexy letter of the alphabet is:

P: Punishment (Pain)

Definition:

-1: the act of punishing
2a: suffering, pain, or loss that serves as retribution
b: a penalty inflicted on an offender through judicial procedure (Merriam-Webster)
-the imposition of an undesirable or unpleasant outcome upon a group or individual, meted out by an authority—in contexts ranging from child discipline to criminal law—as a response and deterrent to a particular action or behaviour that is deemed undesirable or unacceptable (Wikipedia)
-Discipline in BDSM is the practice where the dominant sets rules for the submissive that he/she is expected to obey. When rules of expected behavior are broken, punishment is often used as a means of disciplining. (Wikipedia)

Personally :

Oh punishment! And the next thought in my brain is pain! One is usually connected to the other.  Not always, but usually.  At least I feel that way.  Where Dom(me) and submissive are concerned and part of the equation, there is always some form of discipline and punishment.  It is that power-play (another P word or phrase!) that comes with the D/s relationship.

As a submissive I know that my Dom has rules and if I push the limit to those rules or go against those rules, I will be punished and/or disciplined.  I feel I am a good submissive, for the most part, but I do have that fire in me.  That will in me that tries to push against those rules when I feel the need to show that edgy side of my personality.  In talking to other submissive, I understand I am not alone in this.

I also understand that this is a side of a submissive that spurs on a Dominant to keep them on their toes, and they enjoy that part of the power exchange in the relationship.

But the pain that comes from the discipline…UGH!  I understand the why and reasoning for the punishment and discipline, but I would rather not receive it, of course.  I am not a fan of the stingy, or “slappy” implements that feel as if my skin is coming off when being put through it.  But that is what I personally know I have to deal with if I am going to continue to consensually agree to this D/s I love.

What about you? How does this affect/effect you and your relationship if it is a part of it?  Would love any feed back about this!

Until next time when I share the Letter Q! 🙂

Sexy A to Z – O

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I am sharing something each day covering the alphabet until I reach Z!  Here we are at day 15!  I am sharing topics having to do with sex, BDSM and/or kink.  These topics are of things I am curious to learn about, love to know more about or just love to share.

If you have anything to add or have something else in that alphabet letter to share, please do so in the comments below.

Today’s sexy letter of the alphabet is:

O: Orgasm Control

Definition – Orgasm:

– the sudden discharge of accumulated sexual excitement during the sexual response cycle, resulting in rhythmic muscular contractions in the pelvic region characterized by sexual pleasure. (Wikipedia)

-a feeling of intense pleasure that happens during sexual activity. (NHS)

The ‘Big O(s)’ is an in-depth explanation of several types of Orgasms on Healthline.com

Orgasm Control :

-can mean any of several sexual activities involving forcing, denying, or postponing orgasm:

-the sexual practice of holding oneself in a state of arousal for an extended period without achieving climax. Due to this elongated final stage of arousal, the sensations of the eventual orgasm may be amplified. (Kinkly)

Personally :

If you take a few moments to go to the Healthline link above, you will read a very interesting article on the different orgasms that can be reached. From clitoris, to g-spot, to anal, to all the above! Yes!!

It is amazing how the body works and I for one enjoy learning more about my body and how it works for pleasure! 😉  Giving and receiving.

Then to experience orgasm control….Ohhhhh! It can be so frustrating yet so gratifying once reached.  One of the reasons Dom(me)s love to have orgasm control over their submissive(s).

See you next time when I share the letter P!

Sexy A to Z – N

I am sharing something each day covering the alphabet until I reach Z!  Here we are at day 14!  I am sharing topics having to do with sex, BDSM and/or kink.  These topics are of things I am curious to learn about, love to know more about or just love to share.

If you have anything to add or have something else in that alphabet letter to share, please do so in the comments below.

Today’s sexy letter of the alphabet is:

N: Naughty and Nice

Definitions:

Naughty –

1. Behaving disobediently or mischievously: a naughty child.
2. Indecent; improper: a naughty wink.

n. pl. naugh·ties

One that is naughty. (The Free Dictionary)
1a: guilty of disobedience or misbehavior a naughty child
barchaic : vicious in moral character : WICKED
2: lacking in taste or propriety (Merriam-Webster)

Nice –

1: POLITE, KIND a very nice person That’s nice of you to say.
a: PLEASING, AGREEABLE a nice time, a nice person
   b: APPROPRIATE, FITTING not a nice word for a formal occasion. She always wears nice clothes.
   c: well-executed nice shot
a: socially acceptable : WELL-BRED from a nice family

   b: VIRTUOUS, RESPECTABLE… I met nice girls whose skirts reached the ground.— Jack London (Merriam-Webster)

1. Pleasing and agreeable in nature: had a nice time; a nice person.
2. Having a pleasant or attractive appearance: a nice dress; a nice face.
3. Exhibiting courtesy and politeness: a nice gesture.
4. Of good character and reputation; respectable. (The Free Dictionary)

Personally :

Since Christmas was just this past week what is more appropriate than Naughty and Nice!! 😉

I believe one of the things about a great relationship is being able to be both naughty and nice.   I mean, it’s no fun if you can’t be a bit naughty and then showing you can be nice in the same time/play/scene with your partner.  Right?!?

In the eyes of a submissive, that is how one is anyway.  Naughty for their partner/Daddy(Mommy)/Sir/Master(Mistress)/Dom(me) by wanting to be the kinky, needy, sex toy, fun lover, bottom for them.

And then match that with being nice.  By being what they need in that giving of yourself, taking what they give as play/punishment, pleasing them as well as being pleased, all that has been agreed upon together.

At least that is my view on the subject.  There is so much more I could add, but for now, I will stop there.  🙂

See you next time with the letter O!

Sexy A to Z – M

 

The holidays have interrupted my flow a bit.  But no worries! Even if I miss a day or two in a row, I will be getting through this lovely sexy alphabet up to the 26th day!! 😉

I am sharing something each day covering the alphabet until I reach Z!  Here we are at day 13!  I am sharing topics having to do with sex, BDSM and/or kink.  These topics are of things I am curious to learn about, love to know more about or just love to share.

If you have anything to add or have something else in that alphabet letter to share, please do so in the comments below.

Today’s sexy letter of the alphabet is:

MMasochist

  • someone who obtains pleasure from receiving punishment

Masochism:

1: the derivation of sexual gratification from being subjected to physical pain or humiliation by oneself or another person — compare SADISM, SADOMASOCHISM
2: pleasure in being abused or dominated : a taste for suffering  (Merriam-Webster)
Masochism is an eponym — a word named for a person. Leopold von Sacher-Masoch was an Austrian writer in the nineteenth century who described the gratification he got from his own pain and humiliation. (vocabulary.com)

Personally

Honestly, once you are in a BDSM or D/s (or M/s) relationship, you will form your own opinion of what a masochist is.  From light to hard core.  I find that having a spanking or some other kind of somewhat lighter to medium type punishment gets my mind off of what is getting me anxious or unhappy.  At least for that amount of time it is happening, as well as getting my mind refocused on what needs to be done next or what can be done to make that stress or anxiousness straighten out and make things better.

Sometimes I don’t even realize I am on edge or feeling the stress until the punishment occurs and I feel it all lighten and/or go away once the scene is done.  It is an amazing revelation.  Especially when it occurred the first time and I had a light bulb moment.  Showing me that it was because of the punishment, and focused energy of that punishment, that made me more focused and out of that stressful mindset!

Do you feel the same? Does it affect you in other ways (I mean other than the turn on 😉 )?  Care to share?

My next Letter will be N! See you then! x

Sexy A to Z – L

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I am sharing something each day covering the alphabet until I reach Z!  Here we are at day 12!  I am sharing topics having to do with sex, BDSM and/or kink.  These topics are of things I am curious to learn about, love to know more about or just love to share.

If you have anything to add or have something else in that alphabet letter to share, please do so in the comments below.

Today’s sexy letter of the alphabet is:

L:  Leather, Latex & Lace

If you are big into the feel and texture of things in your kink, these are three of the top materials enjoyed in any sexual interaction, kink and BDSM scene or play time.

Leather

a durable and flexible material created by tanning animal rawhide and skins. The most common raw material is cattle hide. It can be produced at manufacturing scales ranging from artisan to modern industrial scale. (Wikipedia)

*A great resource for leather implements can be found at The London Tanners.  So many great articles to look at and maybe get for yourself or your special someone. 😉

*Other leather gear to check out can be found on Leather Werks where you can find things like covers, hats, gloves, dungeon gear and so much more you can peruse and see all the different possibilities.

Latex

1: a milky usually white fluid that is produced by cells of various seed plants (as of the milkweed, spurge, and poppy families) and is the source of rubber, gutta-percha, chicle, and balata
2: a water emulsion of a synthetic rubber or plastic obtained by polymerization and used especially in coatings (such as paint) and adhesives (Merriam-Webster)
*I found a couple of companies that look to have some great fun products of Latex.  Libidex is one and they have clothes and fun items for both men and women.
*Another that covers both men and women is the Rubber Loft.  They have some really great items and ideas if latex play is what you are looking for.

Lace

(Noun)
1: a cord or string used for drawing together two edges (as of a garment or a shoe)
2: an ornamental braid for trimming coats or uniforms
3: an openwork usually figured fabric made of thread or yarn and used for trimmings, household coverings, and entire garments (Merriam-Webster)
*For lacy undies and lingerie there are a couple of sites I looked at and one was Adore Me.  They have some very sexy pieces to choose from and I love looking through them and imagining how great they would look on!
*Agent Provocateur, like Adore Me, ships to US, Europe, UK, etc…  They also have lace, satin and more to drool over. So much fun! I have so many wish lists now! 😉

Personally

I must say, I absolutely love dressing up all sexy in lacy undies and lingerie! And I adore leather. Leather gloves, leather paddles, leather and suede floggers…umph!  But latex, I have not worn it nor gotten into it.

Tell me, what do you like and what are you into of the three? One or two, or all three?

Until tomorrow when I share the Letter M! 🙂

Sexy A to Z – K

* Pixabay – Sculptures of loving couples, mythical figures on outer walls of Konarak Temple, Orissa,India, Asia

I am sharing something each day covering the alphabet until I reach Z!  Here we are at day 11!  I am sharing topics having to do with sex, BDSM and/or kink.  These topics are of things I am curious to learn about, love to know more about or just love to share.

If you have anything to add or have something else in that alphabet letter to share, please do so in the comments below.

Today’s sexy letter of the alphabet is:

K:  Kama Sutra –

Definitions :

Kinkly – Kama Sutra is an ancient Indian text that explores human sexuality and the sociology of sex. It was originally written in Sanskrit, and it is believed that it was created by an Indian philosopher named Vatsyayana. Today, Kama Sutra is most known for the 64 different sexual positions that were outlined in the original text.

[It] teaches that sex is one of life’s greatest joys and should be a part of daily life. The 64 sexual positions outlined in the book may not all be for everyone, but the book certainly can provide some variety for those looking to mix things up. One example is the crab position, where a woman lies on her back with her knees pulled up to her stomach and the man enters her from a kneeling position. This is one of the easier Kama Sutra positions to get into.

There is a variety of books about Kama Sutra as well as downloadable apps.

Wikipedia – Kama Sutra is an ancient Indian Sanskrit text on sexuality, eroticism and emotional fulfillment in life.  Attributed to Vātsyāyana, the Kama Sutra is neither exclusively nor predominantly a sex manual on sex positionsbut written as a guide to the “art-of-living” well, the nature of love, finding a life partner, maintaining one’s love life, and other aspects pertaining to pleasure-oriented faculties of human life.

Personally :

I was not educated very well with regard to sex while growing up.  We learned the basics of girl and boy having sex could lead to baby and/or deceases or problems. So we are told that it is best to wait until married to have sex. But, if we did have sex prior to marriage the things to look out for and how to protect ourselves.

So, when I was older and heard about Kama Sutra, the first thing I did was giggle (with my friends as we talked about it) and think it was just too much to take in about the sexual positions. Not realizing that it was so much more.

Not only is it about the sex positions everyone goes crazy over.  But it is about “how to have a rewarding life and fruitful relationships.”

Refinery29 has an entertaining and great write up on Kama Sutra and information on the sex positions and what it is really all about.

I have learned so much on my own with research, listening to podcasts and just talking about things with other like-minded people.  I feel I understand myself and the world we live in a little more each and every day.

What was the first thing you thought of when you saw Kama Sutra was my word for today?  When did you learn about it and what response did you have when knowing what it is?

Thank you for stopping by on my continued Sexy Alphabet 26 day ride!! See you tomorrow when I share the Letter L!