My Words To Live By – Right Now

I began my blogging adventure right at two years ago.  It was during a tumultuous time and I was trying to find my footing in my life and in this world of blogging and sharing.  

Like so many of us, I began my blog as just a place to go and share things I was going through and to explore a world I was interested in with BDSM and D/s.  

After a couple of months I started following those that shared their stories and had interests similar to mine.  I found people who not only had similar interest in BDSM and D/s but also loved writing as I do.  I found several that I admired and that had memes and prompts they ran for people to participate in and share their stories.  I was so excited and wanted to join in.  

I wanted to be just like these wonderful people and do what they do and write like they write.  

Well, recently I came to the realization, lightbulb moment, that I am not like them and I don’t write like them.  I am my own person, write my own way and in my own style.  I will never be like another person because I am who I am, not them.  Makes sense, right?

One of my favorite quotes by a very wonderful writer, Brené Brown, is, “Being ourselves means sometimes having to find the courage to stand alone.” 

To me, this doesn’t mean you will actually be standing alone, but doing things you alone are interested in or have a passion for that others around you do not.  Or, they have a passion for something else even though they may love what you do.  So, have the courage to step out of the crowd and follow your passion and what you are interested in.  If you are, then there is a very large chance someone else is too and can benefit from what you do or write about.  

I am alone a lot right now and have a lot of time to read and listen to podcasts.  In doing this, I am finding things that I believe is the way forward for me.  This is in both my writing and possible future work. 

I am doing research and testing some things to verify this fact, but I am pretty sure I am on the right track and am so excited about it!!

I have had some people, mainly family, that have decided that what I write about and share is bad, not me, and that I am lost.  This is not true.  What I write about are things that I not only am curious about but that are helping me actually find who I truly am.  It is not bad and I am definitely not lost.  I am at a stage in my life where I had to make a change.  And it was a big change, HUGE! But I am getting through it.  Carrying the anxiety, stress and emotions that go along with it.  

Thank goodness I have several friends and family that love and support me.  Along with my friends in this blogging community that have come to be very dear to me.  This gets me through.  

I am always switching out quotes or “words to live by” with each new circumstance I go through.  So who knows what my next one(s) will be.  😉



#SoSS on Podcasts

*Picture from Pixabay

My #SoSS for this week is Podcast finds!

I listen through Apple Podcasts but there are many other podcast hosts you can go to and find these podcasts.

I have been following Loving BDSM for the last couple of years and love Kayla and John! They have hit their 4 year mark this month of August and I am so thrilled for them! The topic for this past week is Taking Care of Each other When You’re Apart.  Boy do I understand (especially where the LDR is concerned!) and I had so much going through my head while listening.  So, take a listen and you can catch up on all their episodes if you want as well! 🙂

I really enjoy listening to Floss and Bakji on Proud To Be Kinky.  They are a lot of fun and share good information.  Their podcast this past week is on Dynamics in BDSM.  A very good listen, and take a listen to the rest of their episodes when you can!

I just recently started listening to Kink Craft Podcast.  A wonderful couple I really enjoy listening to.  They not only talk about Kink but other current events going on in our crazy world! This last episode on De-platforming – A discussion with Sluts and Scholars, introduced me to another new podcast (Sluts and Scholars) that I will be listening to when they get back from their meet and greet! 

I was just recently introduced to Sexpots podcast when on twitter! Love these gals (G of Girl on the Net, Bitsy Von Muffling and Katy)! They talk about four topics and have a saying right in the middle (Wikipervia – (spelling?)) that they guess what it means or tell you what they know about it and then read what it actually is.  They have fun and pull you in and have you laughing along with them! Then at the end of the podcast they give you a position to try out with your (or a) partner.  

Another new podcast I found and started listening to was from twitter as well.  It is Smut.  These girls (Lisa and Michelle) are funny and a blast to listen to.  The last one is on Oral Sex, BDSM Test, Sex Laws and Dirty Photos!  They have a lot of fun drinking and eating while sharing their topics picked out for the podcast.  

Franki Cookney is a great writer and journalist and I was so excited to learn she has a podcast as well! The Second Circle is the name of it, and she has her husband on there with her.  Great topics, interviews and information.  Check her out!

Guys We F****d is a podcast run by two comedians, Corinne Fisher and Krystyna Hutchinson.  They talk about so many different topics (both funny and serious) and they are so funny.  The last episode is with Kathy Griffin and it was so great listening to them all feed off of each other through the whole interview with Kathy! It’s called DOES KRIS JENNER KNOW WHEN EACH OF US WILL DIE? Check it out!

So that is my #SoSS for the week.  Not my norm for sharing but wanted to give a shout out to these great podcasts and I know there are more out there! I will most likely do another one soon with more for you to check out.  But until then, I will go back to sharing posts on blogs next week.

Enjoy your weekend and hopefully I have introduced you to a podcast you will love!

Shibari – Kinbaku


I was listening to the podcast Sexpots last night (Episode 7/June 23) and in that episode the word they had to answer in the middle of their four topics was what Shibari is. (They may not know what the word means, but they give a good guess and then get the answer.)  GOTN normally knows a LOT of them and of course knew what Shibari was.

So, hearing this, of course, got me thinking about Shibari again.

I have always loved to see photos of Shibari, otherwise also known as Kinbaku.  To me it is beautiful and from what I understand stress releasing to both parties.  It is art from the one doing the work, and their creative side is being brought out; and release of control for a while from the one it is being done to.  There is a web site for Shibari – Hikari Kesho that has beautiful descriptions and pictures I came across today that you might like to take a peak at.

*The definition (from Wikipedia) is:

“Kinbaku (緊縛) means “tight binding,” while Kinbaku-bi (緊縛美) literally means “the beauty of tight binding.” Kinbaku is a Japanese style of bondage or BDSMwhich involves tying a person up using simple yet visually intricate patterns, usually with several pieces of thin rope (often jute, hemp or linen and generally around 6 mm in diameter, but sometimes as small as 4 mm, and between 7–8 m long). In Japanese, this natural-fibre rope is known as asanawa (麻縄); the Japanese vocabulary does not make a distinction between hemp and jute. The allusion is to the use of hemp rope for restraining prisoners, as a symbol of power, in the same way that stocks or manacles are used in a Western BDSM context.[1] The word shibari came into common use in the West at some point in the 1990s to describe the bondage art Kinbaku. Shibari (縛り) is a Japanese word that literally means “to tie decoratively”.

I myself have had a small amount of shibari done on me.  On my wrists, tying them together; and on my arms and legs (together).  It was an experience I really enjoyed and loved to see the markings the rope made on my skin once it was removed.

I would love to see and experience more one day.  Until then, I will continue to look at beautiful pictures, read about experiences and write about it in some of my stories and hope I get it right! 😉

So, check out the girls on Sexpots! You will get a good giggle at their antics and enjoy their banter and topics.  And check out the website I suggested above if you would like to know a little more. Or take a look yourself on Google or any of the other search engine you might use.


K ~ xx

My Ventures in the Smut Marathon


I didn’t make it through to the next round (Round 7) of the Smut Marathon.  I’m not disappointed because I know I have gotten better the more I have written.  Having received good feedback (in both critique and enjoyment) regarding my writings, I feel I have learned a lot.  There are some great writers I hated to see leaving with me.  Although many great writers are still in it, so definitely continue to enjoy! 

Thank you to Brigit Delaney for picking my last story as her top three initially and in her top ten by the time she was finished in her decisions!!  That meant so much (especially since I followed some of her feedback from before! 🙂 )

Thank you Marie for giving us the opportunity to experience this fun writing competition.  I truly have learned so much about my own writing as well as what a lot of readers look for.  Also, I have realized we must be true to ourselves and not try to follow others and how they write.  We are all our own person and have our own style and when we perfect our writing is when we get the readers that follow and love our work.  

So, to show how I have changed just over the six rounds I participated in, I am now going to share with you my stories from Rounds One through Six.  


Round 1:

Eyes Connect (47 Words)

Their eyes connect as he walks in the room.  Together their souls intertwine, bright as the stars and moon.  Heart beats rooted as one and bodies combine. The fire within meets as they embrace in time.  Quenching the thirst as they release the ecstasy in their minds. 

Round 2:

Do You Dare? (121 Words)

They greet one another and he orders a drink for himself.  He smells of sandalwood and cloves, pulling her in.  Sensing her hidden desire, he wants more.  

“Meeting a friend?” he asked.

“No, you?” she responds.

“Yes.  A few actually,” he says “Want to join us?”

“Oh, no, thank you.” She moves to leave the bar.

“I didn’t mean to chase you away.”

She smiles. “You didn’t. I’m going to the bathroom. Care to join me?” 

Seeing the dare in her eyes, he says, “Sure.”

Closing the door behind them; their mouths, tongues, hands exploring.  Needing, wanting, primal actions leaving them breathless. 

“Damn, you’re good, baby.  We need to do this again.”
“I thought you might like that little scene, darlin’.”

Round 3:

On The Edge (198 Words)

She was so excited about the planned sexting rendezvous.  It had been a while since they had had the chance to have time to talk and enjoy each other.  

“Hello, Kitten.  Are you all right?”

“Hi, Daddy! Yes, I’m good.  Are you?”

“Yes, darling.  Are you in bed now?”

“Yes, Sir, I just sat down on the bed.”

“Great! What are you wearing?”

“My cotton night time knickers and my PJ top.”

“Take off the top, baby girl.  I want you to touch your breasts and pinch your nipples.”

“Yes, Daddy.  Mmm, that feels good.”

“Good girl.  I want you to imagine it is Daddy touching you.  Moving my hand down your body and touching your mound.  Are you doing this, Kitten?”

“Oh, yes Daddy, I love your touch.”

“Good girl. Now, move up and down your cunt slowly and when you get to your clit, circle around it and stimulate that little button.”

“Yes, Sir. Mmmm, that feels so good.”

“Yes, sweet girl, now push two fingers into that wonderful pussy of mine and tell me how she feels.”

“Wet and wanting you Daddy.”

“Good girl.  Now, I want you to stop. And remember, Daddy loves you…”

Round 4

Say What? (247 Words)

Walking out of the bathroom, she hears her roommate talking in the living room.  With towel wrapped around her she tiptoes down the hall. Stops just short of the doorway into the room. 

“Yes, but if we did this to her it would be so much more fun,” her roommate Mike says in his low voice.  

His friend Joe, even lower, says, “I still think this would be way hotter and she would enjoy it more.”

She peeks around the door frame seeing them on the couch, backs to her, leaning over a laptop.  Not able to get a good view on it she leans in a bit more.    

“Oh, wait!” [She jumps.] “What about this? She would totally get off on it.”  

“Damn straight she would. Definitely something your girl here would love.”

Now she lets her imagination run wild.  Were they talking about her? Sexy things? Things to do together? A threesome maybe? She can feel her heart racing. Erotic images pop into her mind.  Her in the middle of these hot guys.  No way.  Couldn’t be that.   

Needing to know, she steps boldly into the room.

“Hi, guys. Whatcha talking about?”

Laptop smacks down as they both jump, turning around.  

They walk over to her.  Towel drops.  Her body tingling.

Walking her over to the massage table, she lays on it face down.

“Joe has some new techniques to show you.” 

She moans. “Oh.” 

And then, hot oil and two pairs of hands. “Ohhhh….!”

Round 5

Enlighten Me (385 Words)

Darkness and cold. Musty smell. And something else.  Ariel awakens with a start, sitting bolt upright, realizing she is laying on a cold floor.  Sundress on, no shoes.  Dizziness hits, head throbbing.  It’s pitch black and she can’t even make out her hand in front of her.  Feeling cautiously around until she touches what feels like fur.  

Remembering vaguely a wolf walking towards her in the woods and then a man carrying her to a small house as her vision comes and goes.   

Something moves near her.  She freezes, listens.  

“Shhh, it’s okay, I will not harm you.  I found you not far from here and you were knocked out and quite cold,” a strange deep voice says.

“I am not afraid,” and she isn’t, surprising herself with this knowledge. “Please, is there any light? Can I see you?”

“Sorry.  There is no light in here.  I will come closer, okay?”

“Yes, please.”

His voice sounds so familiar.  She remembers a dream she had recently; of a man who turns into a wolf as he guards her while she sleeps.  She is extremely attracted to the man.  Tall, brown hair, stubble on square chin and bright hazel eyes.  Cheeks, and body, warm as she remembers the rest of the dream.  

[Their feelings for each other are intense.  They are naked and he takes her in the forest.  The primitive need between them.  Feeding on her pussy and then impaling her with his cock.]  

It is so real and her heart races once again with the vision fresh in her thoughts.

An intake of breath and he says, “Yes, that is me.”

“Excuse me?” She says.

“Your thoughts.  Of the man and wolf.  That is me.” He says softly.

“No.  It is only fantasy and dreams.” She answers, baffled that he knows her thoughts.

“Touch me and see if you feel the same.” He says, moving closer.

She reaches out hesitantly.  The instant she touches him, a symphony of sensations suffuses her nerve endings.  An instant connection to him. Dizziness hits once more and he catches her.  

She remembers looking for her cat and getting lost in the woods. She was attacked but can’t remember by whom or what.  An intense sexual need that hit her then, as it does now. That, she most certainly remembers.

Round 6

Something Borrowed…? (477 words)

She slides into the dress easily. Not sure if she will use it or get a new one, Amy turns left, then right as she looks at herself in the floor-length mirror.  Her auburn hair is pulled up out of her face and she sees her Aunt Maggie in her reflection.  She must have been tall for her time since the dress fits me almost perfectly. 


Suddenly she hears footsteps moving quickly up the stairs.  Bursting into the room are two women looking extremely similar to her grandmother and other aunt, Natalie.

“Come on girl, we are going to be late! You don’t want to leave Samuel waiting at the alter now, do you?” the older woman says. 

Amy’s mouth just gapes open as she stares at the pair dumbfounded. 

“Maggie, say something. Are you ready?”

She looks over to her Aunt Natalie and says, “excuse me?”

“Come on, silly, you look beautiful. Enough staring at yourself. Let’s go.”

They pull her along, out of the room and down the stairs to the great room where people are gathered and sitting in chairs.  There is an aisle in the middle leading to an arch where a very handsome man and a preacher stand looking her way.  

She turns to walk back out from where they came and they turn her around and nudge her toward the men. 


Finding herself in a bedroom alight with candles, she is alone with the sexy, dark haired Samuel.  The dress is being unclasped by his expert hands and he is kissing her deeply.  

Her heart is racing. This is not real. 

Oh, but if feels so real! 

He is sliding his hands down her hips and pulling the skirt of the dress up ever so slowly.  Reaching under as he pulls it up, caressing her mound that is wet and aching for him. 


Breathing in a ragged breath she says, “This is not happening.”

“Oh it is!  This man in front of you, loves you and all day has been keen to pleasure you and make you his.”

A shiver runs down her body as she responds to his touch and sensual words.

He lifts the dress higher and stops at her breasts, kissing and suckling.  She moans.

He then slides the dress completely off of her. 


She is back in the room, in front of the mirror and alone.  

Her sister Angie, all of five feet and long blond hair, flounces into the room. “I found the veil,” she says.

“You know, I think I will not wear Aunt Maggie’s wedding dress after all.  I will look again for my own.” 

She pours herself out of the dress, passes it to her sister as if it were a hot potato and pulls her own dress back on.  

“Well, okay.” Angie says baffled, as Amy moves quickly out the door.  


I hope you enjoyed reading my stories and see the change I went through.  Yes, it was hard at times to get a story in with the short amount of words we were allowed.  To get in characters personalities, conflict, beginning and end AND erotica (I mean it’s not called Smut Marathon for nothing! 😉 ), is no small feat! 

I am proud of the writing I did.  Knowing it is not for everyone, and I am learning still in many many ways.  But I am completely enjoying writing and hope to one day write that great one! 

But, until then, I will continue to learn, write, get great ideas and follow them, etc…

I hope you all stick with me through it! And thank you so much for giving me your precious time to do so! 

Much much love!

Kurvy xx

**If you did not have a chance to read the stories in each round, take some time to enjoy them.  You will find something you like, I guarantee it! Just follow this link: Smut Marathon.  xo

Kink and BDSM Reference


In my normal #SoSS spot this week, I am sharing some information I think is so important for the BDSM/Kinky lifestyle.

I know when I first started to look into the aspects of BDSM, Kink and D/s, I was on the internet a lot, social media, reading books and articles.  I found great podcasts as well.

Whether you are new to this subject or want more information, I have a few references to share from my long-time and recent finds.


I will start first with podcasts.

*My absolute favorite is Loving BDSM with Kayla Lords and John Brownstone.  Their latest one is on Saying “No” In D/s Relationships and they have some great recommendations and input on this subject.

*Another fun and informative podcast is Proud to Be Kinky with Floss and Bakji Ben. Their latest one is Max & Kitty Again! from this past Wednesday. They talk about impact play and implements they use.

*Very informative and with many perspectives (four actually) is the podcast The Ersties Podcast. The last one I caught being The Squirting Masterclass which, I would expect that to catch many people’s attention!

I know there are many others out there, but for now that would be the top three I have listened to for informative information.


Now, there are so many links out there to find for information.  Using any words that you can think of, like Kink, BDSM, Lifestyle, Kinky relationships, etc…

A Beginner’s Guide to Kink is a great source for information for anyone wanting to know more and just getting into the kink/BDSM scene.

Kinky Sex Tips has some kinky sex ideas in spicing up your sex life with your partner.

A great description and write up on BDSM is A Loving Introduction to BDSM on the Psychology Today site. It describes and talks about all the key points in a relationship that is focused on BDSM and all the aspects it includes.


There are so many blogs I started following because they gave such great perspectives of their lives in D/s and BDSM.  They are all wonderful people and most will answer questions if you are not sure about an aspect of the lifestyle.

Here are a few I initially followed for this reason, but not all.

*Kayla Lords and John Brownstone because of Loving BDSM

*Molly of Molly’s Daily Kiss

*Marie of Rebel’s Notes

*E.L. Byrne of E.L. Byrne Writer

*Posy Churchgate and her Pillow Talk

*Missy of Submissy

*F. Dot Leonora

And my list has exploded and expanded triple fold! If you want to check them all out, go to my list of ones I follow and you will find those you will benefit from as well.

Happy hunting and researching!!

Kurvy 😉

Post sharing – Re: People-Pleasing

If you find you have been overly people-pleasing.  If you feel you have to please everyone all the time, there is something called “Fawning” that you could be doing to cause this.

“To avoid conflict, negative emotions, and re-traumatization, people who “fawn” when triggered will go out of their way to mirror someone’s opinions and appease them in order to deescalate situations or potential issues.”

@_Masterseye shared this post on twitter.  I shared it as well on there, from her post.  And I hope she doesn’t mind that I share it here.  This touched me. I myself have been through this in a lot of ways. I know so many that deal with this, have dealt with this and are looking for answers.

People-pleasing can be a result of trauma. It’s called ‘fawning’ — here’s how to recognize it.

I hope my sharing this helps at least one more person deal with something they either didn’t realize they had or didn’t know how to deal with it.


Day 12 – #EveryDamnDayInJune


I come to you willingly

Excited and most thrillingly

To experience what I have never before

And feel everything right to my core

From the lightest of touch, building up

Growing slowly to windup

These feelings deep within

That are bursting out like conjoined twins

Lead me to the ecstasy I have needed

Carrying us on to the point we exceeded

All the emotions and passions deep down

Bring us together and now we are bound


Day 10 – #EveryDamnDayInJune


I have tried all day to determine something for this day to share for Day 10.  All I could think of is this:

He sits her down upon the bed

All fishnet, cuffs and heels

It’s not so warm yet cool instead

As the air has been down for cold wheels

For they will prickle and tickle her skin

To make her gasp, moan and sigh

Along with the screams of delight and grins

Because she loves the pain and cries

So as he begins his playful scene

With their connection so intense

He carries her and moves her in between

The world of touch, audio and visual sense


Day 5 – #EveryDamnDayInJune

*Picture from Pixabay

I have found a link of “25 Facts About BDSM That You Won’t Learn In Fifty Shades Of Grey“! It is some great information and description of BDSM and what it’s all about. 

A few quotes from the site:

*”Most people think BDSM is always tied to sex, and while it can be for some people, others draw a hard line between the two.”

*”There is nothing inherently wrong or damaged with people if they’re into it.

This is one of the most common and frustrating misconceptions about BDSM, says Thorn. BDSM isn’t something that emerges from abuse or domestic violence, and engaging in it does not mean that you enjoy abuse or abusing.

Instead, enjoying BDSM is just one facet of someone’s sexuality and lifestyle.”

*”A 2008 study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that people who had engaged in BDSM in the past year were no more likely to have been coerced into sexual activity and were no more likely to be unhappy or anxious than those who didn’t do BDSM.”

So just a little insight on some of the things touched on. Enjoy!