Post sharing – Re: People-Pleasing

If you find you have been overly people-pleasing.  If you feel you have to please everyone all the time, there is something called “Fawning” that you could be doing to cause this.

“To avoid conflict, negative emotions, and re-traumatization, people who “fawn” when triggered will go out of their way to mirror someone’s opinions and appease them in order to deescalate situations or potential issues.”

@_Masterseye shared this post on twitter.  I shared it as well on there, from her post.  And I hope she doesn’t mind that I share it here.  This touched me. I myself have been through this in a lot of ways. I know so many that deal with this, have dealt with this and are looking for answers.

People-pleasing can be a result of trauma. It’s called ‘fawning’ — here’s how to recognize it.

I hope my sharing this helps at least one more person deal with something they either didn’t realize they had or didn’t know how to deal with it.

xx

My Sexy #SoSS

My Sexy #SoSS

Trying to get back in the swing of things.  It is taking some time to get used to this self-hosted site and how it works.  A big huge shout out to @DomSigns for all his help and dealing with this half-techie understanding person. Thank you!!  And to Violet Fawkes of @fireandhoney and Love, Violet for my Avi and Header art, thank you, I love it!! 

Now, on with my share…

I was able to get in my Masturbation Monday and Friday Flash posts this week.  I was so frustrated because I couldn’t seem to come up with something for Wicked Wednesday, which I love to participate in as well.  These all help me in continuing to get better at my writing and I am so grateful to you all for offering these prompts for others to participate in!

If you would like to participate in any yourself, please check out Marie Rebelle’s #SoSS to see a list of prompts and memes to pick from.

My faves of the week:

Masturbation Monday –

Club Dress: Pleasurable Pain by Asrai Devin – Such a hot little story

Human Tales by Kisungura – Check out one hot little fairy

My Beautiful Stone Fairy by A Leap of Faith – Such a sweet romantic tale

Wicked Wednesday –

Double Your Pleasure by Love, Violet – Hot M/M short story 😉

Primitive by F. Dot Leonora – Quite a curious possible double life look. Wow!

[That’s My Kink] Masochism by Floss Does Life – Such a personal look into Flosses life <3

Friday Flash (So Far) –

Tangled Up In You by Ria Restrepo – Hot office sex you just can’t miss!

Artistic License by Lascivious Lucy – Very hot F/F short story

Open Mouth by F. Dot Leonora – Oh how thoughts can work for such a sexy session

These are all amazing posts and there are so many more! So, please go and check out as many prompts/memes as you can.  Give the writers likes and comments and share the love.

Thank you and Happy Easter!!

My #SoSS for week of April 8

I have been biting at the bit to get back in the blogging world and my writing!

So, I am starting here on my new blog site with my #SoSS. 🙂

Just sharing a few this week to get me started, and they are posts from Masturbation Monday and Wicked Wednesday.  I picked four from each and there were soooo many great ones I hated I couldn’t share them all. 

So, here are my faves from each:

Masturbation Monday:

#1 – Outside by lascivity.co.uk  – Wonderful writing of a couple being able to completely take in the experience of being alone outside and enjoying one another.

#3 – The Sex Scientist Files by lustitude.com – Very sexy tale of a couple’s experience, especially her’s and what he gave to her in experience.

#11 – True Love’s Kiss by mycontrolledascent.com – Eery but kept me on my seat the whole time and a different take on the Sleeping Beauty tale. Wow!

#14 – Sleepy Saturday by bluesubmission.com – I can just imagine myself in her place.  How hot!

Wicked Wednesday:

#2 – Sexiness is a state of mind by brigitdelaney.com – Very moving and I can relate to this in so many ways.  Sexiness really is a state of a person’s mind.

#3 – Wicked Wednesday by sirandkittenspleasureplace.com – So very understanding how a person can get sucked into their own mind and fall for the body’s reaction to things.  I am so happy she has the support of the people she has. So many of us are similar to this.

#4 – A letter of thanks by toyforsir.com – How beautiful and kudos to her for staying strong and working through things after he is gone! x

#6 – Vincent by ifsexmatters.co.uk – May shares something so personal and life changing in a decision she had to make.  

Thank you to everyone that shared these posts in particular (that I shared above), but all the posts shared are always personal and mean something to each person writing. So, please go and read these posts through the links I have placed above. Share some love and comment on them if you can.  

Check out Marie Rebelle’s post for #SoSS.  She is so great at sharing the prompts and memes of others, and herself, that are used to help us all in our writing that any and all can participate in!

Next week I hope to be in full swing again.  Have a great weekend and new week coming up!

Love to Share – #SoSS

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The longer I am here blogging and sharing with fellow bloggers, and getting to know so many, I am learning so much.  Not only about me and others here, but about my writing and where I would like to take it.  It not only scares me but gets me excited about the possibilities.  I have always just written what was in my head with no thought about things like repetition or clichés or even the right words in explaining things.  By doing my writing the way I have, it caught people’s attention, I guess being straight from my head and heart.  But it wasn’t catching the attention of those that would come back for more.  It’s very gratifying to get comments from writers I respect.  And, I will admit, I was very shy to give comments to those same writers (shoot any writers really) because I felt my comments were not a big deal or wouldn’t really mean anything.  I have, thankfully, realized that was the silliest thing to think. Everyone appreciates comments, feedback and likes regarding what they write.  How else will you know you are reaching people and doing it “right” for those reading your work.  In other words, knowing your writings are being read and meaning something to someone other than yourself.

So, on with my sharing for the week!

*I participated in three memes/prompts this week:

Masturbation MondayFantasies

Wicked WednesdayThe Fear is Real

Friday FlashLuck of The Draw

*Smut Marathon – The voting for Round 2 of the Smut Marathon (brought to you by Marie Rebelle of Rebel’s Notes) begins tomorrow (March 3) until Friday, March 8.  Please drop by and vote for your 3 favorite stories.

*EuphOff 2019 – Now open for entries! The EuphOff 2019 (brought to you by The Other Livvy) is now open for entries beginning March 1 and must have them posted before March 31.  Looks like great fun and you can find the rules in the link above.

*Eroticon is on March 15 (Meet & Greet) -17! Just less than two weeks away! There are so many bloggers and writers that will be there.  Everyone is excited and looking forward to meeting virtual friends in person, for the first time or once again.  You can check out many bloggers’ Eroticon Virtual Meet & Greet on their blogs or twitter (I can’t share everyone’s posts so just look for “Eroticon Virtual Meet and Greet”).

*Podcasts – I know this is not talked about much, if at all, but there are many bloggers that actually have podcasts too! If you, as a blogger, has a podcast audio and/or video, please let me know and I will include it next time 🙂

Check out these I know of and listen to:

Loving BDSM w/Kayla Lords and John Brownstone; Masturbation Monday for stories read by John Brownstone; and The Smutlancer by Kayla Lords.  They also have a YouTube Podcast for Loving BDSM! (I hope I covered them all)

Proud to be Kinky w/Floss of Floss Does Life and Bakji

Other Memes and/or Prompts to read or participate in:

Sinful Sunday

Masturbation Monday

TMI Tuesday

Wicked Wednesday

Friday Flash

Food For Thought Friday

Fantasy Smut Friday

Kink of the Week

Erotic Journal Challenge

Tell Me About…

Sex Bloggers for Mental Health

February Photo Fest brought to you by Molly’s Daily Kiss, has come to a close and if you didn’t get a chance to catch up on all the great pictures shared, you can go back here to do so!

I know I have shared a lot so hope I haven’t overwhelmed you.  Trusting you all are having a great weekend and will have a great week!

 

Sexy Saturday Share – #SoSS

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Participating in the Smut Marathon has me a bit off regarding writing.  I took some time to soak up the appreciated input I received on my entry and then took more time trying to decide what story to write for round two.  I have now written my story and I have stepped away from it.  I will revisit it later today to go over and possibly make changes.  I have four more days to get that in.  

Also, I was asked by Kayla Lords to choose the top three for this week’s Masturbation Monday.  I was so honored and so excited that she asked me! I have followed her podcast, twitter account and her blog posts since Daddy introduced their podcast, Loving BDSM, to me, approximately three years ago. We became fast friends virtually and I cannot wait to meet her and John Brownstone in person! Yay!!  Go here to check out all the posts for Masturbation Monday.  

My top three picks are:

In Bed With Layla by Floss Does Life

Vicki’s Dream by Lascivious Lucy

Fast and Furious by Kilted Wookie

There are so many other prompts and memes to check out and participate in.  Marie Rebelle of Rebel’s Notes does an awesome job of listing them and the dates for each, every week.  On her blog you can find them here and here.

The ones I have participated in before and/or recently are these:

Sinful Sunday

Masturbation Monday

TMI TuesdayMy post

Wicked WednesdaySo Many Colors

Friday FlashSo Many Colors

Food For Thought Friday

Fantasy Smut Friday

Kink of the Week

Erotic Journal Challenge

Soooo many sexy writings to read, and pictures to see!  So enjoy reading the latest stories, pictures (well, seeing) and poetry offered on these wonderful memes/prompts.  Give comments and likes when you can because they are much appreciated by all.  Have a wonderful weekend and great week!

 

Write…Read…What’s next?? – #SoSS

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A little late, but better late than never, right?! 😉

There is so much going on right now! So many prompts a person can participate in and read!  I want to do them all!! 

Unfortunately I can’t and I hate it because I would love to give everyone my support all the time.  And it helps me with my writing.  But, even if you are great with scheduling things and doing them, it’s still hard to cover them all.  And I am not one that is very good at that. 

AND, I am participating in the Smut Marathon.  I thought I was clever doing a poem type writing for my first story since it was so short.  Obviously I was wrong. 🙁  I have already started learning from it with a few recommendations and helpful insights (thank you to all who left comments!).  So, I am still in it for this next round (2) and will hopefully get to the next one.  Crossing fingers, toes, hair….well, you get the jest.  

Anywho…

Here are the prompts I participated in this past week and a few more that are available for your participation or reading pleasure. 🙂

Masturbation Monday:  Wicked Daddy

TMI Tuesday:  My Post

Wicked Wednesday:  Erotic Photo

Friday Flash:  Locked Together in Love

Others prompts:

Sinful Sunday

Menstruation Matters

The Erotic Journal Challenge

February Photofest

Fantasy Smut Friday

Food For Thought Friday

Lingerie is for Everyone

Kink of the Week

Sex Bloggers for Mental Health

Tell Me About Dominance and Submission

There is some really great advice out there if you are interested.  For all of us writers out there, if you didn’t see the input for our writing, please go to the voting page of the Smut Marathon and see what you can learn!

I love when you can get advice from those that have “been there, done that,” so kinda have an insight on how things might work.  Check out the unsolicited, yet quite helpful, advice from Brigit Delaney regarding things to look for and possible insight on writing.

Better get back to getting ready for my next writing assignment! Have a great week and enjoy, whether writing, reading or both!