Dom, Sub, Switch? – Day 1 of 30 Days of Kink

I saw a fellow blogger posting the 30 days of Kink challenge and decided I wanted to do this starting today, November 1. So, this should be interesting…here goes:

Day 1: Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.

Definitely Submissive!  I love to serve and feel needed.  I feel I need guidance, protection, support and a bit of discipline.  I cannot see myself as a dominant nor switch.

Definition of: What is a sub? By The Ultimate Guide to being a Submissive

The definition of a submissive is an obedient, compliant person who likes to give up control.  They crave being used and need to serve.  They are the subservient partner of a relationship and that is why “sub” is always spelled with a lowercase while “Dom” is always capital.  A submissive can take on many different roles such as:

They strive to please their Dom in all things, not just sexually.  This means that they may have to give up some of their own personal freedoms and preferences.  It is not uncommon for a sub to have a mild and quiet personality. They are obedient, and accept disciplinewhen needed.  Subs aim to conduct themselves  in a respectful and modest manner at all times, recognizing that their behavior is a direct reflection on their Dom.

I don’t completely agree with the above definition, but, it covers all. I am somewhat of a little (DD/lg, D/s-where I don’t do age play but need the guidance and enjoy doing things like coloring, watching movies, etc…), slight masochist and Kitten/babygirl.  I need the freedom to give up my control to center my mind and being.  My mind does the over-thinking, over-analyzing a lot and needs that guidance and giving up of control to lead it to be quiet.  It’s amazing to have that ability in the D/s relationship.

Now, we are all different and have our own ways of doing things and living the lifestyle in our own way.  It is up to the Dom/sub relationship/partners to determine what rules and ways of that D/s relationship they will live and follow, whether it be just a relationship where they get together as scheduled, or a 24/7/365 lifestyle relationship.

So, that is my kinky self…submissive.

Have a wonderful day and Happy November 1!

*Pic from Tinkleberry

French Maid Play Time – NSFW

“Okay Kitten, Daddy wants you in your french maid costume, hair up in pony tail, hold-ups, heels, sexy knickers and all that goes with the costume, like the feather duster and hair piece.”

“Yes, Daddy. Any implements or toys in particular that you need me to have prepared?”

“No thank you Kitten, I will do this part myself.”

“Okay Daddy.”

I move quickly to our room and pull out the maid costume and all that goes with it.  Once I have finished getting dressed I put my hair up and touch up my makeup.  I then grab the feather duster and put the hair piece up on my head, check myself once more and head to the living room where Daddy is waiting.

I walk into the living room and see Daddy has an ironing board out with iron heating up on it for me to iron his shirt that is laid out on the board.  He also has a list of things he wants me to do.  He holds it out to me and I walk over and take it, look over it and then once done, I look at him for direction.

“Okay Kitten, get started with the list please.  Start with ironing my shirt and then move on to the list.”

“Yes Sir.”

“Good girl.  I like to watch you do your chores dressed this way.”

I put the list on the table, walk over to the ironing board, and start ironing Daddy’s shirt.  Once I am done with this, I hang it up and unplug the iron for it to cool.  I pick the list back up and begin by starting at the top with vacuuming (Hoovering as Daddy calls it.)

I bend at the waist and lean over to move things as needed, as Daddy likes to see plenty of my bum while I do chores.  Daddy walks by at one point of my bending over and pops me with the crop.  I jump, not expecting it. He gives a short laugh then sits down to continue watching.  Once the vacuuming is done I move to dusting, which calls for more bending and dipping.

I am almost done with the list when Daddy calls me over and has me kneel in front of him.  He sits there for a few minutes with a stern look on his face as he contemplates what he will do next.  I sit there with my mind running wild wondering if I did everything and did it right. Wondering why he is having me do this when I think I have done everything right so far, but still have a few things to finish.

“Kitten, I know you are excited to know what Daddy has planned for you, but there was no need to rush through the dusting. That does not get things done properly.  You will now lie over the foot stool and receive a spanking for your hastiness.  Do you understand?” (The foot stool is a large square padded stool to rest your feet on while lounging in the living room area.)

“Yes, Sir, Daddy, I understand.” I then get up and lay across the padded foot stool and raise my skirt up to my waist for Daddy to have access to my bottom.

“Good girl,” he says.  “I will begin with the hair brush and then we will do a few with the leather paddle. Do you understand, baby girl?”

“Yes, Sir, I understand.”

“You have me so turned on Kitten. I am just itching to get my hands on this beautiful bum of yours.”

He begins with the brush, peppering my cheeks and upper thighs.

He steps back a second to admire his work.  “Mmmm…nice and rosy Kitten.”

He then proceeds with the leather paddle.  Covering the same area he did with the brush, he begins to hit a couple of spots over and over and they are beginning to become very sensitive.  My quick intake of breath lets him know this.

He stops and rubs over these areas before moving on to the wooden paddle.  I moan knowing this is going to start really hurting.  He begins at the tops of my cheeks and covers each one, going over the sensitive spots as well as going down to my upper thighs and the sit spots.  I am yelping each time he goes over these tender areas and jumping.  Each time I do so, he says, “baby girl, hold your position and stop moving,” or “Kitten, hold,” or “baby girl, keep it up and it will continue.”

Only thing is, there is no way to stay still, and Daddy knows this.  It just adds to the spankings though.

I am so wet at this point I know my knickers are soaked.  So does Daddy obviously, because he stops and reaches down to see just how wet I am at this point.

“I see my baby is enjoying this a bit, huh Kitten?”

“Yes, Daddy.”

“Knickers off and get up on the foot stool, hands and knees, right now, Kitten.”

“Yes, Sir.”  I get up clumsily from the stool, take off my knickers and position myself up on the stool as Daddy directed.

“Good girl.  Now a couple more swipes with this beautiful flogger.  Skirt back up out of my way now.”

I move the skirt back up to my waist and Daddy begins with the flogger.  The thumping of the leather flogger lulls me into that wonderful blissful space for a few minutes. I then realize Daddy as stopped and is caressing my cunt.  I sigh and moan as he passes over my clit and then back down again to my pussy.  He pushes two fingers in, fucking me with those fingers, leaning in to lick my clit.

I mewl like the kitten I am and sigh as each pass he makes over my clit and cunt makes me even wetter than I was.

He pauses as he reaches for something out of my sight. I then hear a faint buzz and feel the pressure as he pushes the anal vibrator in, nicely lubed and slipping in easily.

He then continues sliding his fingers into my cunt, pressing my g-spot as he does. He then pulls them out, sliding his hard cock in their place. I moan as the feeling of being full and sensory overload begins.

“Oh baby girl, your tight pussy is so amazing!”

I moan in response.

I feel the orgasm quickly rising. The quickening in my cunt squeezing his cock. I know it won’t be long before we both cum.

“Oh, Daddy!”

“Yes baby?”

“Oh Daddy!!”

“Yes baby girl?!”

Then it hit hard, “Daddy! I need to cum, pleeeaaaasssssee can I cum????”

“Yes baby, cum for me now!”

I came and came so hard. And just as I did Daddy came really hard.

We stayed there for a moment catching our breath then we moved to the couch where he held me. The anal vibrator seems to have made us both cum harder than we normally do, with that extra boost to our senses.

Mmmm…look forward to doing that again!

 

*I originally started writing this for last weeks Masturbation Monday but didn’t get it finished in time. Hope you all enjoy anyway!?

* Pic from Pinterest

Some of my favorite kinks

Took me a bit to decide what I wanted to talk about on my blog post today.

I have decided to share some of my favorite Kinks:

*Spankings – with various implements as shared in my previous blog post

*Dress up – School girl, maid, flight attendant, cheerleader, lingerie… I know not everyone likes dressing up play times, but to me it’s fun and can get you (me) in the right mood and head space for play

*Bondage – Cuffs (hand cuffs, leather cuffs), rope, blind fold… This is an exciting part of play time; can make you (me) nervous, heart racing, senses heightened and feelings of no control

*Toys – Butt plugs, vibrators, wands, wheel, feathers… To me, these things help heighten and enhance the play time experience

*Pic from Pinterest

Getting to know my kink – Spankings

It’s fun getting to know my kink. Things I enjoy and didn’t realize I would, along with ones I absolutely knew I would.

Never thought I would be one to enjoy spankings. That is, until I realized being spanked made me hot, wet and horny! Once realizing this, I am now finding out the ones that really get me.

So far, I have been spanked with the following: hand, wooden paddles (large/small, thinner/thick), wooden spoons, hair brushes, leather paddles (small-large), crops, floggers and leather straps.

With the wooden implements like spoons and paddles, the solid “thwack” of the impact to my bottom is impressive by sound and feel of the larger paddles and cringingly stingy with the sharp pop of the smaller paddles and spoons. These are not my favorites but make the statement(s) needed when called for.

To me the hand, hair brushes, small leather paddle and/or crop are great for peppering my arse to get it warmed up and ready for further “punishment” and play. These “implements” are easier to work up from light to harder impacts, from what I have felt.

Out of the leather implements I have found so far that the leather strap(s) have the hardest impact, although the flogger can definitely be right there with it.

The flogger, however, I have found a bit more erotic in the feeling at impact than the other leather implements. To me it is like being caressed and given pain all in one. With the smaller flogger as it caresses will give the short sharp bite, where the larger flogger will give the thudding impact ending in a pop within that caress. This, if you can’t tell, is one of my favorite impact play implements.

The leather paddles I enjoy more than the wooden paddles. I think my body just enjoys the feel of leather (along with the smell, yummy!); the difference is definitely there. The impact is still stinging but not as much of a thud as the wood.

So, even though the wooden implements will always be in our impact play, I really enjoy the leather implements and how they affect me during our play.

There are so many other kinks I can talk about but will save them for another post. This kink, spankings, was just in the forefront of my mind and I wanted to share.

What kinks do you enjoy or have found more enjoyable than you thought? Would love to know!

*Pic from Pinterest

Have you found it?

It’s amazing the things you learn from research, reading other fellow bloggers’ posts and experience regarding the BDSM – D/s world! I have learned so very much in the last few years than I ever thought I would. And things I never even thought to know 20 to 30 years ago.

Constantly searching for something, knowing there was more and knowing you are craving it will drive you crazy. And when you finally find it and have that “ah-ha” moment, is incredible!

When I first realized there was more to love, sex, a connection and just overall lifestyle out there, it blew me away. Because I had been searching for something and not knowing what it was until it pretty much hit me and knocked me off my feet!

I have always been so sensitive to others; feeling their feelings, knowing if they were happy/sad/angry, trying to help if I could; then to meet one or two people you immediately connect with and share the same outlook and need in life…it’s absolutely amazing!

I don’t know if you have had this happen or been searching like I was, but I would love to know and share experiences if possible.

 

*Pic from Pinterest

Are you ready…to continue?

IMG_3470“Are you ready to continue, Kitten?”

I groan, “yes Daddy, if you wish. I am ready.”

I can hear the grin on Daddy’s face as he says, “What is it babygirl? Do you need something from Daddy?”

“I am hanging on the edge Daddy. May I please cum?”

“I see. We are almost there darling girl.  Not yet.”

I take a deep breath and say, “Yes, Sir.”

“I am just getting to my new paddle I have been wanting to use on my baby’s lush bottom.  And here we go, Kitten.”

“Yes, Sir, Daddy.”

He picks up the new wooden paddle with holes in it and begins softly around my cheeks and upper thighs.  As he continues he gets harder with his hits and I am yelping by the time he stops. He places the paddle beside me on the bed and reaches in to feel how sopping wet I am.

“So, is Daddy’s girl ready to come for me?”

“Oh yes, Pleeeaassse, Daddy!”

He pushes two fingers in reaching my g-spot along with circling my clit and when he feels I am about to fall over the edge he whispers in my ear, “Cum for me babygirl, cum!”

I orgasm so hard, I shout my pleasure out.

“Good girl.”

“Thank you Daddy,” I say breathlessly.

“Oh, we are just getting started, Kitten.”

 

Yes, Sir, I am ready…

As he begins to pepper my cheeks with his hand as a warm up, I feel all toasty and warm, letting out a mewl with his attention to making me all pink and rosy.  He stops a moment and rubs both cheeks taking in the work he has done so far.  He then changes over to the brush paddle.

“Brush paddle now Kitten. Ready?”

“Yes, Sir, I am ready.”

“Good girl, Kitten.”

He then proceeds to work the paddle over both cheeks and upper thighs, starting light and working up to a harder contact.  Certain spots are feeling more sensitive and I begin to take a sharp breath in each time these spots are reached.

He pauses once again and touching each cheek he comments on how lovely the color is.  He picks up the leather paddle and once again lets me know we are beginning and he continues.

The contact is even more intense and at times I squeal at the sharp pain that hits certain areas.  Knowing this is not as hard as it can be, I take in the feelings and focus on the sensations and my body’s reactions.  Then once again he pauses and asks me if I am okay.

“Yes Sir,” I say.

He reaches between my legs and touches my girlie parts saying, “Hmmm…seems like my babygirl is enjoying this a bit.”

“Yes Sir.”

“Good girl.”

“Okay, Kitten, I am going to have you count these next ones. There will be 20. After each I want you to say, ‘Thank you Daddy, may I have another?’ Understand babygirl?”

“Yes Daddy, I understand.”

“Good girl.”

He picks up the larger leather paddle and begins.  As he continues, each spanking gets harder and he is covering all over my cheeks and upper thighs, especially the sweet spots.  By the time we are at 16 I am squealing and moaning before saying my “Thank you Daddy, may I have another.”  I am almost breathless from the intensity and overwhelmingly horny and needing a release.

He stops as we reach 20 and says, “Good girl, Kitten. You took that very well.”

Breathlessly I say, “Thank you, Daddy.”

My View of this lifestyle

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It’s amazing to me how many different views of this lifestyle there are out there. What I feel is the right view others would not agree with.  And I in turn do not always agree with others’ views.

To me, personally, I understand the D/s lifestyle to be a growing ever-changing relationship between Dom and sub.  Yes, there is the constant power exchange in what is right and wrong, Top/bottom, etc… Yes, there is the leadership/order in the Dom and the following/answering in the sub (per se). But that love is always there. Guiding the two in the life they love and the lifestyle they crave and need with one another.

Everyone has their own beliefs and needs in the lifestyle of BDSM.  No person is wrong in what they believe is their way. Do not hate or put down what others enjoy and believe in.  It is their choice and as long as it is safe, sane and consensual between the adults taking part, it is to their own choosing.

I have gone through a lot in the past few years and am so thankful I found this way of life.  I believe it is the reason I am stronger today than I was a few years ago.  I believe it gives me even more strength than I have ever had before.  I love the person I have become and am continuing to be.  I have the support of an ever-loving Dom that guides, supports, nurtures and protects me always.  His love carries me on through each day.  I am determined every day to make him happy and show him how very much he means to me.

One thing I love about this lifestyle is that it is an always changing, always developing, always moving thing.  To me it does not get stagnant and does not get boring.  We try, and learn, new things, new ways of doing things; in play, life and sexual means.  We spur one another on, in writing, learning, feelings, and just everything.  It warms my soul to know how much we mean to each other.  He is my muse and I am his.

I know when one of us is feeling down, we can normally lift the other up just by talking, hearing the other’s voice, listening and talking through things.  We are so in tune to each other we usually know when something is not quite right and needs to be dealt with and communicated.  It’s not always like this.  We have to work at it always.  But we do come back around to it through us trusting in one another and talking it out.

My view of this lifestyle is most likely very mild compared to many.  It is a deep relationship to me.  Not only is it D/s, a bit of S/M, but a relationship that can last a lifetime.