Sexy A to Z – Z

I am sharing something each day (not always every day in a row) covering the alphabet until I reach Z!  Here we are at day 26!  The final letter of the alphabet!! I am sharing topics having to do with sex, BDSM and/or kink.  These topics are of things I am curious to learn about, love to know more about or just love to share.

If you have anything to add or have something else in that alphabet letter to share, please do so in the comments below.

Today’s sexy letter of the alphabet is:

Z: Zentai :

Definitions –

-a skin-tight garment that covers the entire body.[1] The word is a portmanteau of zenshin taitsu (Japanese: 全身タイツ, lit. ‘full-body tights’).[2]Zentai is most commonly made using nylon/spandex blends. (Wikipedia)

-a term for skin-tight garments that cover the entire body. The word is a portmanteau of zenshin taitsu. Zentai is most commonly made using nylon/spandex blends, but other materials such as cotton and wool are used as well. There are several variations based on the Zentai suit including mummy bag and hybrid suits consisting of either a single leg and arms, or separate legs and no arms. (definitions.net)

-a fetish in which participants wear Zentai suits—skintight suits made from thin, stretchy fabric—in order to have anonymous sex with other Zentai enthusiasts, or to participate in some anonymous dry humping. (cltampa.com)

Personally :

I personally did not think of this being a fetish! Of course, if you think about it, almost anything can be turned into, or are, a fetish.

These tight, form fitting body suits really started being seen more when, from what I remember (and of course I can be wrong), a group on one of the contest shows wore these body suits as part of their gimmick.

Then we started seeing fans of sports wearing them to the games more.  They were really getting popular at this point. And they are the suits that the super heroes in movies wear! 😀

Then, reading the definitions and explanations of this Zentai suit being a fetish, I see it is used in a fetish as a way to be “anonymous” in sexual play.  Very interesting!  Unfortunately at this point there is not much information about it that I can find, but there are sexy videos on it.  😉  Not something I would personally like to try, but it had me very curious about the fact that it is a fetish.

Finally: 

Thank you for joining me in this Sexy A to Z fun share! That was an interesting way of giving myself (and others, hopefully) more insight in to things I have known, wanted to know more about, or didn’t know at all.

If this is something you would like to delve into, please by all means do! I saw this on another blogger’s site and loved the idea, so the reason I did it.   We all share things, and I hope personally that it has others wanting to do the same.

XX

 

Sexy A to Z – Y

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I am sharing something each day (not always every day in a row) covering the alphabet until I reach Z!  Here we are at day 25!  I am sharing topics having to do with sex, BDSM and/or kink.  These topics are of things I am curious to learn about, love to know more about or just love to share.

If you have anything to add or have something else in that alphabet letter to share, please do so in the comments below.

Today’s sexy letter of the alphabet is:

Y: Your Kink Is Not My Kink (YKINMK) :

Definitions –

a phrase used in the kink community to denote respect for someone else’s kink while stating that this is something one is not into. The expression is meant to maintain the community’s openness to everyone’s kinks, while still being able to maintain one’s boundaries. (Kinkly)

Kayla Lord and John Brownstone shared this on a podcast on LovingBDSM with the title of Inclusivity, Identity, and the Principles of Your Kink Is Not My Kink.  Have a listen!

Personally :

In looking for definitions on YKINMK I found a lot of YKINMKBYKIOK (Your kink is not my kink but your kink is okay) sayings.  There were also a lot of  links to supposed definitions and then once clicked on there was not a definition.  So, the reason I include Loving BDSM’s podcast above.  They talk about it and explain it a bit more.

To me, I have always found it intriguing to find out about different kinks.  Even if it is not something I can see myself participating in or liking.  It does not make it wrong, just not what I see as a kink I would get into.  As long as it is between adult partners that are consensually participating in the kink together, I see no wrong in it, even if it is not for me.

As I read in one of the links that came up in my search for the term, titled What is Kink?, it states “it is critical from a kink perspective that what kinksters do is not just about sex but, more importantly, about enhancing intimacy between partners.” To me, this is an interesting point.

I believe that even those not in the kink world (Vanilla-which is the usually used term for non-kink) would have much closer relationships if they followed the beliefs of the kinksters.  To have a quality relationship, you have to be open, honest and communicate at all times.  This is the part of the consensual participation in the power dynamic exchange that is so important.

Come back as I share the last in the sexy alphabet.  The final letter Z!

Sexy A to Z – X

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I am sharing something each day (not always every day in a row) covering the alphabet until I reach Z!  Here we are at day 24!  I am sharing topics having to do with sex, BDSM and/or kink.  These topics are of things I am curious to learn about, love to know more about or just love to share.

If you have anything to add or have something else in that alphabet letter to share, please do so in the comments below.

Today’s sexy letter of the alphabet is:

X: X-Frame :

Definitions –

Known as a Saint Andrew’s cross is a piece of BDSM furniture made up of a cross set diagonally in the shape of an X. It restrains the subject in a standing spread-eagled position. The St. Andrew’s cross was most recently brought to public attention when it was used by Christian Grey to restrain Anastasia Steele in “Fifty Shades of Grey.”

*(It is also known as an X-cross, saltire cross or X-frame.) (Kinkly)

Known as the St. Andrew’s Cross, crux decussata, X-cross, X-frame or saltire cross is a common piece of equipment in BDSM dungeons. It typically provides restraining points for ankles, wrists, and waist. When secured to a saltire, the subject is restrained in a spreadeagle position.

The St. Andrew‘s Cross and the [[spanking bench]] are the most common pieces of BDSM furniture. Saltires are versatile and easy to manufacture. They are usually firmly attached to a wall, and is distinguished from a BDSM-style Catherine Wheel, which has a central hinge and allows occupants to be turned upside down. (Wikipedia)

Personally :

Since I have started knowing about BDSM, all the dungeon furniture and implements that are used for scene play I have been very curious of it all.  One of the things I have been most curious about is the furniture. Especially the X-Frame (called the St. Andrew’s Cross).  Talk about having no control and totally at your Dom(me)’s mercy!!

Of course the submissive still has the right to use the safe word and stop the scene. But…Ohhhh! The thought is incredibly sexy and intriguing!

As you can see by my comments, I have not had the introduction to this enticing curiosity. One day I hopefully will and I so look forward to it!

Join me next time when I share the letter Y!!

Sexy A to Z – W

*Agreeable Agony Blacklight Wax Play Candles

I am sharing something each day (not always every day in a row) covering the alphabet until I reach Z!  Here we are at day 23!  I am sharing topics having to do with sex, BDSM and/or kink.  These topics are of things I am curious to learn about, love to know more about or just love to share.

If you have anything to add or have something else in that alphabet letter to share, please do so in the comments below.

Today’s sexy letter of the alphabet is:

W: Wax Player :

Definitions –

a form of temperature play practiced in a BDSM context. The idea of wax play is to introduce a slight burning sensation to the skin.  (Wikipedia)

-a form of sensual interaction in which a person drips warm or hot wax onto their partner’s naked body. The feeling of the wax hitting one’s body causes a rush of adrenalin which increases arousal.

Although wax play is often combined with BDSM practices, it is also enjoyed by people with a wide range of sexual interests, outside of the BDSM community. (Kinkly)

Candles for Wax Play –

Some suggestions:

Low Temperature Candles

KandlesByKitten Wax Play Candles

BondageStudio wax play candles

Personally :

I personally have not had a chance to try out wax play.  I really would like to though.  As I have shared above, there are actually candles made specifically for wax play.

You can use so many different colors for wax play now.  White, black and all the colors of the rainbow.  And, so many different companies have them on offer for us.

Just imagine all the beautiful colors you can be covered with.  And combine that with other implements, impact play and toys for a scene! Mmmm!

So, see you next time when I share the letter X!

Sexy A to Z – V

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I am sharing something each day (not always every day in a row) covering the alphabet until I reach Z!  Here we are at day 22!  I am sharing topics having to do with sex, BDSM and/or kink.  These topics are of things I am curious to learn about, love to know more about or just love to share.

If you have anything to add or have something else in that alphabet letter to share, please do so in the comments below.

Today’s sexy letter of the alphabet is:

V: Voyeurism :

Definitions –

sexual interest of watching activities, typically activities that are private or intimate in nature, without the knowledge or permission of the person(s) being watched. The main characteristic of voyeurism is that the voyeur, the person watching, does not engage directly with the person being watched. (Kinkly)

practice of getting sexual pleasure by secretly watching other people having sex or taking their clothes off. (Collins Dictionary)-is defined as an interest in observing unsuspecting people while they undress, are naked, or engage in sexual activities. The interest is usually more in the act of watching, rather than in the person being watched.

an interest in observing unsuspecting people while they undress, are naked, or engage in sexual activities. The interest is usually more in the act of watching, rather than in the person being watched.

The person doing the watching is called a voyeur, but you might hear them casually referred to as a peeping Tom. (healthline.com)

Personally :

I personally can’t say I have secretly watched anyone having sex, undressing or whatnot.  All I can do is imagine what I would do and how I would feel.

As healthline.com states above about peeping Tom, that was the first thing I thought of when reading the definitions to voyeurism. Ha!  But before that, knowing what it basically meant, I had not even thought about it until reading the definitions!  Made myself giggle at the thought.

Even though I have not personally had the experience of being a voyeur, I did write a post about Voyeuristic Indulgence last August. It was fun to imagine and write about.  I have read other stories about it and can see why it is exciting and such a turn on.

Have you ever had this experience?

See you next time when I share the letter W! 🙂

 

Sexy A to Z – U

*by Glaminati (Kinda what I had in my mind 😉 )

I am sharing something each day (not always every day in a row) covering the alphabet until I reach Z!  Here we are at day 21!  I am sharing topics having to do with sex, BDSM and/or kink.  These topics are of things I am curious to learn about, love to know more about or just love to share.

If you have anything to add or have something else in that alphabet letter to share, please do so in the comments below.

Today’s sexy letter of the alphabet is:

U: Unicorn :

Definitions – 

A common swinging term used in the community to refer to a single female interested in meeting other couples. Described as such due to the rarity of finding said females. By no means derogatory but quite the opposite, a rare treat. (Urban Dictionary)

A unicorn in polyamory or swinging lifestyles is usually a bisexual single female who is willing to have sex or enter a relationship with an established couple. Although unicorns are usually female, this term can apply to persons of other genders. Because this type of person is hard to find, they are akin to the rare, mythical unicorn. (Kinkly)

Personally :

I, like many young girls growing up, loved unicorns.  Brought up to believe, as it says above, that they were rare, mythical creatures.

So, imagine my surprise when I found out recently that this was a name given to those that are a third sex partner for couples!  I giggled at first just imagining that person putting a horn on their head and meeting the couple of choice for their fun! 😉  (Yes, that is my silly imaginative mind working there! Ha!)

I can see this scenario most likely working best for the third person being a sex worker rather than a single person looking for this.  But, I have seen that there are the actual rare people that enjoy this lifestyle.  At least for a while.  It has to be a complicated thing if one or both of the people, as the couple, want more.

It’s a very interesting lifestyle and makes me wonder how long a person enjoys being that Unicorn for others.  Do they get tired of it and want more?  Do you know? Have any input?

Join me next time when I share the letter V!

Sexy A to Z – T

I am sharing something each day (not always every day in a row) covering the alphabet until I reach Z!  Here we are at day 20!  I am sharing topics having to do with sex, BDSM and/or kink.  These topics are of things I am curious to learn about, love to know more about or just love to share.

If you have anything to add or have something else in that alphabet letter to share, please do so in the comments below.

Today’s sexy letter of the alphabet is:

T: Total Power Exchange (TPE) :

Definitions –

-In BDSM, TPE refers to a type of relationship: total power exchange. The implication is that the dominant partner has complete control and authority over the submissive in all areas and at all times, even when they’re not actively engaged in a scene. Most couples will, however, agree to a set of terms and limits beforehand, which can be renegotiated if it becomes necessary. (Urban Dictionary)

-Total power exchange (TPE) is a relationship dynamic that occurs in a BDSM relationship where the dominant partner has total power over the submissive in everything. TPE always applies in sexual situations, but generally also refers to the dominant having power over all other elements of the submissive’s life. (Kinkly)

General Power Exchange as described on Kinkly =

-Power exchange is a term that is frequently used to describe dominance and submission relationships and the BDSM community. These types of relationships involve submissive partners whom willingly and voluntarily relinquish control to their dominant partners, either in certain situation, for a specified period of time, or completely. Once in power exchange relationships, submissive partners must surrender to and obey their dominant partners. Common elements in power exchange relationships include bondage and discipline.

Personally :

This is an interesting subject to me.  I originally thought it was just a “Power Exchange” in the lifestyle.  In this, the submissive gives control to the Dominant in a scene or even in their daily life.

I then found that there is a Total Power Exchange as well.  Where the submissive gives the Dominant complete and total control over their play time and scenes or in their life, decisions, everything.  At first this was something that intrigued me.  Wouldn’t it be nice to just give over everything to someone to take all the responsibility?!

Then thinking about it more, I realize I am not willing to give over every single thing in my life.

I was raised to take care of myself and my life.  So, even though the thought of relinquishing all to someone was a nice thought, I can’t see this working for me.

To have a partner you can share responsibility with and discuss things with is so great!  And it is nice to have someone that wants to make sure I continue to be responsible for things.  He doesn’t just take all out of my hands (even though sometimes I think he would like to).

I must say, for a scene, it is absolutely amazing!! 😉

Next post for the Sexy AtoZ we will share the letter U!

 

Sexy A to Z – S

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I am sharing something each day (not always every day in a row) covering the alphabet until I reach Z!  Here we are at day 19!  I am sharing topics having to do with sex, BDSM and/or kink.  These topics are of things I am curious to learn about, love to know more about or just love to share.

If you have anything to add or have something else in that alphabet letter to share, please do so in the comments below.

Today’s sexy letter of the alphabet is:

S: Submission & Sensation Play

Definitions:

Submission –

**the condition of being submissive, humble, or compliant
– an act of submitting to the authority or control of another (Merriam-Webster)
**The action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person. (Urban Dictionary)
**Submission refers to a set of sexual rituals, behaviors, and customs where individuals willingly hand over control of their bodies to their partners. While submission mainly occurs during erotic episodes, some couples integrate this ritual during their daily life. The partner who takes the upper hand position is normally known as a Dom, or Dominant. The inferior or willingly docile partner is referred to as the sub or submissive. (Kinkly)

Sensation Play –

**Erotic sensation play is a class of activities meant to impart physical sensations upon a partner, as opposed to mental forms of erotic play such as power exchange or sexual roleplaying.

Sensation play can be sensual, where the sensations are generally pleasing and light. Many couples that would not consider themselves active in BDSM are familiar with this kind of play: the use of silk scarves, feathers, ice, massage oils, and other similar implements.

Sensation play in BDSM can also involve sadomasochistic play, involving the application of carefully controlled stimuli to the human body so that it reacts as if it were actually hurt. While this can involve the infliction of actual pain, it is usually done in order to release pleasurable endorphins, creating a sensation somewhat like runner’s high or the afterglow of orgasm, sometimes called “flying” or “body stress”. (Wikipedia)

**Sensation play describes a wide variety of activities, both vanilla and kinky, that use the body’s senses as a way to arouse and provide stimulation to a partner.

Although sensation play is often related to skin sensations, it doesn’t have to be so limited. Sight, taste, and hearing can also be included in sensation play. (Kinkly)

Personally :

I put Submission and Sensation Play here together because they can go together in a scene.

As you see above, submission is giving up control to a dominant person or one of authority.  And in a D/s relationship, the submissive gives up control to the Dominant in either scenes or in daily life.  It depends on which they have agreed upon.

Also as above, sensation play is one of playing with the senses which can be done in both a “vanilla” relationship as well as a “kinky” relationship.

I have read about, known others that have experienced and myself have experienced the relationship of submission and sensation play together in a scene.

Where the submissive gives the Dominant control to play with their sensations.  They will either go slow and gentle, moving up to intense.  Or straight out intense sensation play.  Depends on how far on the spectrum their Sadist and masochist natures are, to the level of the sensations.  😉

Join me on my next Sexy A to Z when I share the letter T!

Sexy A to Z – R

I am sharing something each day (not always every day in a row) covering the alphabet until I reach Z!  Here we are at day 18!  I am sharing topics having to do with sex, BDSM and/or kink.  These topics are of things I am curious to learn about, love to know more about or just love to share.

If you have anything to add or have something else in that alphabet letter to share, please do so in the comments below.

Today’s sexy letter of the alphabet is:

R: Role Play-

Definitions:

-To act and speak as if you are the character you’re portraying. To roleplay is as much about what not to say as what TO say. It means to keep your speech in the context of the setting in which your character (or avatar) exists. Context can be defined as both time and place. (Urban Dictionary)

-1: to act out the role of
2: to represent in action (Merriam-Webster)
-Make-believe and playing dress-up does not have to end when you grow up. Role playing is when people take on characters outside of their day-to-day lives as part of a sex scene. Common examples include doctor-patient (medical role play), boss-secretary, or pool boy–rich housewife. And who can forget the classic: schoolgirl-professor? While role playing often comes with costumes and is a fabulous excuse to dress up, costumes are not required. Scenes can be created through dirty talk and pure imagination. Feel free to use role playing to tap into alter egos or your favorite fictional characters. (Glamour.com)

Personally

Do you like role play?  Is it part of your kink or fetish?

Me? I enjoy diving into a role and playing it out.  Whether it be a school girl being disciplined or a naughty maid enticing the head of the house.  Or even just role playing a sexy woman in corset, stockings and heels.  Role playing to me ramps up the sexy connection between partners.  Makes it fun and sexy prior and during sex.

Brings that extra sexy something to the norm.  Keeps you both from becoming bored with the same thing over and over.  Granted, I like straight out sex like the next person.  Both the love-making sex or the down-and-dirty sex, but to have this other part helps too.

What do you think?

Next up I will be sharing the Letter S!

Sexy A to Z – Q

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I am sharing something each day (not always every day in a row) covering the alphabet until I reach Z!  Here we are at day 17!  I am sharing topics having to do with sex, BDSM and/or kink.  These topics are of things I am curious to learn about, love to know more about or just love to share.

If you have anything to add or have something else in that alphabet letter to share, please do so in the comments below.

Today’s sexy letter of the alphabet is:

Q: Queening

Definitions :

-Facesitting is a sexual practice in which a person sits or hovers over a partner’s face (also sometimes known as “Queening” particularly if a female is on top). (Kinkly)

-Basically Queening is where a woman positions herself to be sitting on, or straddling, the face of her partner. As you can imagine, it’s used to allow oral-genital, or oral-anal, stimulation. (mamamia)

-The sexual practice of facesitting (Wikipedia)

*Here I think the Urban Dictionary has the most in-depth definition I have found and very interesting:

-An ancient art in which a woman presses and rubs her genitalia and/or anus against the tongue, lips, and nose of her subordinate. She classically positions herself in a sitting on or straddling over another’s face facesitting. The first images of this can be seen in ancient Egyptian drawings, but it is known to have been a historic part of ancient Japanese, Chinese, Indian, Medieval European, Victorian and other cultures. Originally a way for upper class women (Queens included) who wished to achieve sexual gratification without becoming pregnant; be they a virgin or a wife with her husband unavailable. It was usually the job of male slaves and servants to submit to their mistresses desires, in Japan there were even brothels where women and girls would pay for male slaves specially trained in the art of queening.
Today queening is enjoyed by people the world over regardless of social status. In this age of balancing the feminine energy it seems to be a particularly useful way for women to feel empowered and can be equally enjoyable for whom they sit/ride upon. Just remember practice and focus will lead to skill for both people involved. (Urban Dictionary)

Personally :

I did not realize face-sitting was called Queening when a woman sat on top of her partner’s face! See, I learn something new all the time!! I know, some of you are amazed I didn’t know this, I am guessing.   That is me though. There are a lot of things I didn’t know and still do not know.  So I am definitely learning new things all the time.

I am always so afraid of the possibility of asphyxiation to a partner, so I understand you have to be careful and be aware at all times to not go completely down on the face.  But ohhh, how nice it is to be in this particular position!

I am sure there are soooo many stories out there about this particular position.  Any one, any one??

See you next time when I share the Letter R! 🙂