Sexy A to Z – P

I am sharing something each day (not always every day in a row) covering the alphabet until I reach Z!  Here we are at day 16!  I am sharing topics having to do with sex, BDSM and/or kink.  These topics are of things I am curious to learn about, love to know more about or just love to share.

If you have anything to add or have something else in that alphabet letter to share, please do so in the comments below.

Today’s sexy letter of the alphabet is:

P: Punishment (Pain)


-1: the act of punishing
2a: suffering, pain, or loss that serves as retribution
b: a penalty inflicted on an offender through judicial procedure (Merriam-Webster)
-the imposition of an undesirable or unpleasant outcome upon a group or individual, meted out by an authority—in contexts ranging from child discipline to criminal law—as a response and deterrent to a particular action or behaviour that is deemed undesirable or unacceptable (Wikipedia)
-Discipline in BDSM is the practice where the dominant sets rules for the submissive that he/she is expected to obey. When rules of expected behavior are broken, punishment is often used as a means of disciplining. (Wikipedia)

Personally :

Oh punishment! And the next thought in my brain is pain! One is usually connected to the other.  Not always, but usually.  At least I feel that way.  Where Dom(me) and submissive are concerned and part of the equation, there is always some form of discipline and punishment.  It is that power-play (another P word or phrase!) that comes with the D/s relationship.

As a submissive I know that my Dom has rules and if I push the limit to those rules or go against those rules, I will be punished and/or disciplined.  I feel I am a good submissive, for the most part, but I do have that fire in me.  That will in me that tries to push against those rules when I feel the need to show that edgy side of my personality.  In talking to other submissive, I understand I am not alone in this.

I also understand that this is a side of a submissive that spurs on a Dominant to keep them on their toes, and they enjoy that part of the power exchange in the relationship.

But the pain that comes from the discipline…UGH!  I understand the why and reasoning for the punishment and discipline, but I would rather not receive it, of course.  I am not a fan of the stingy, or “slappy” implements that feel as if my skin is coming off when being put through it.  But that is what I personally know I have to deal with if I am going to continue to consensually agree to this D/s I love.

What about you? How does this affect/effect you and your relationship if it is a part of it?  Would love any feed back about this!

Until next time when I share the Letter Q! 🙂

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