As I shared yesterday, I saw a similar A-Z topic on someone else’s blog a while ago and unfortunately cannot remember who it was, but I thought, “what a great idea!” They shared something regarding sex, bdsm and/or kink each day starting with A for the first day and ending in Z the very last day of this sharing.
Now I will be sharing something each day covering the alphabet until I reach Z! If you have anything to add or have something else in that alphabet letter to share, please do so in the comments below.
Today’s sexy letter of the alphabet is:
My word today is Bondage!
Bondage – The act of being restrained in some way, be it rope, cuffs, scarves, etc…
Definitions for Bondage:
In the BDSM subculture, Bondage is the practice of consensually tying, binding, or restraining a partner for erotic, aesthetic, or somatosensory stimulation. A partner may be physically restrained in a variety of ways, including the use of rope, cuffs, bondage tape, or self-adhering bandage.
Bondage itself does not necessarily imply sadomasochism. Bondage may be used as an end in itself, as in the case of rope bondage and breast bondage. It may also be used as a part of sex or in conjunction with other BDSM activities. The letter “B” in the acronym “BDSM” comes from the word “bondage”. Sexualityand erotica are an important aspect in bondage, but are often not the end in itself. Aesthetics also plays an important role in bondage.
Or: sexual-bondage , the sensual and consensual experience of safe captivity and physical helplessness. A sexual practice in which a participant is physically restrained or otherwise tied-up , as with cords, ropes, silk scarves, collars, fetters, leg irons, handcuffs, or manacles, or through the use of stocks, pillories, cages, etc., as a means of attaining sexual gratification from relinquishing control, or in combination with spanking, whipping and other disciplines as in bondage-and-discipline . Bondage scenes are negotiated ahead of time to determine the modes and modalities of the exchange of physical power to be acted out, to select the paraphernalia to be used, and to agree on a safeword to be used by the submissive to end the gamewhenever s/he chooses. CAUTION: A bound person should never be left unattended and should be constantly monitored for breathing, circulation, skintone, and temperature of the fingers and toes.
What is your favorite form of bondage?
*Is it the rope bondage, where you are completely tied up and either suspended or completely bound on a bed and cannot move? Where, if in a Dom/sub relationship, you submit, as a submissive, to your Dom to bind you as he likes; or, as a Dom, take pleasure from your submissive and give pleasure by binding them and playing with them to a positive end.
Or maybe you are a couple, Top/bottom or switch, that enjoy to feel the rope and how it makes you feel, either being bound or binding with it, and the marks it makes on the skin. It can be quite erotic. And no sex need be involved.
*Is it the cuffs bondage, where you are either the one being cuffed to the bed, or your limbs are being cuffed together or to something else? Or where you are the one binding the person in cuffs and love the feel of control you receive from being able to bind your partner and lead the play?
*Is it the ribbons, tape, gags (Sooo many different forms of bondage!) that go along with being bound? The giving up of total control, or being the one given that total control.
There are so many forms of bondage and so many ways to use it, both in the BDSM and “Vanilla” Kink Sex. But, as stated above, you must continuously check in with the person being bound to make sure they are comfortable, no circulation is being cut off, and that they are not hurting in any way, or feeling anxious. It is important to trust and be trusted in any bondage experience and to keep that trust throughout.
Then, have fun!!
See you tomorrow for the Letter C!