I began my blogging adventure right at two years ago. It was during a tumultuous time and I was trying to find my footing in my life and in this world of blogging and sharing.
Like so many of us, I began my blog as just a place to go and share things I was going through and to explore a world I was interested in with BDSM and D/s.
After a couple of months I started following those that shared their stories and had interests similar to mine. I found people who not only had similar interest in BDSM and D/s but also loved writing as I do. I found several that I admired and that had memes and prompts they ran for people to participate in and share their stories. I was so excited and wanted to join in.
I wanted to be just like these wonderful people and do what they do and write like they write.
Well, recently I came to the realization, lightbulb moment, that I am not like them and I don’t write like them. I am my own person, write my own way and in my own style. I will never be like another person because I am who I am, not them. Makes sense, right?
One of my favorite quotes by a very wonderful writer, Brené Brown, is, “Being ourselves means sometimes having to find the courage to stand alone.”
To me, this doesn’t mean you will actually be standing alone, but doing things you alone are interested in or have a passion for that others around you do not. Or, they have a passion for something else even though they may love what you do. So, have the courage to step out of the crowd and follow your passion and what you are interested in. If you are, then there is a very large chance someone else is too and can benefit from what you do or write about.
I am alone a lot right now and have a lot of time to read and listen to podcasts. In doing this, I am finding things that I believe is the way forward for me. This is in both my writing and possible future work.
I am doing research and testing some things to verify this fact, but I am pretty sure I am on the right track and am so excited about it!!
I have had some people, mainly family, that have decided that what I write about and share is bad, not me, and that I am lost. This is not true. What I write about are things that I not only am curious about but that are helping me actually find who I truly am. It is not bad and I am definitely not lost. I am at a stage in my life where I had to make a change. And it was a big change, HUGE! But I am getting through it. Carrying the anxiety, stress and emotions that go along with it.
Thank goodness I have several friends and family that love and support me. Along with my friends in this blogging community that have come to be very dear to me. This gets me through.
I am always switching out quotes or “words to live by” with each new circumstance I go through. So who knows what my next one(s) will be. 😉