Day 3 of 30 Days of D/s – Titles & Labels

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What Titles and Labels Do You Prefer?

Some titles for Dominants may be Master, Sir, Daddy, Mistress, Lady, etc. Titles for submissives can be pet, babygirl, little one, boy, girl, etc.

Titles and Labels.  Some love them, some like them and some don’t like them at all.  Every person is different as is each relationship.  I think there are several I like but would never see myself as having, nor my partner.  And this can always change.  As relationships change I have known some to change titles and labels as well.  

Like, for instance, a couple starting out, call each other Sir and sub or maybe babygirl.  Then for some reason, as they develop, the Sir becomes also Daddy and the sub becomes not only babygirl but kitten or little one.  Or, maybe they had titles or labels and decided it was best to not have them at all.   

I honestly prefer babygirl or kitten.  They are sweet and just describe me the best.  And I can only see calling my Dom Sir or Daddy.  Now this of course can change, if the dynamic changes.  

To me, and not all people will see it this way, but, a nurturing, loving, guiding Dom is seen as a Daddy Dom or Sir.  A submissive under a Daddy Dom is immediately thought of as being in diapers, sucking a pacifier, etc…, that is the normal first thought of those hearing the name Daddy Dom.  I know it was for me when first learning these titles and labels.  He does not necessarily have a submissive that is a little who likes to dress up in little clothing or diapers, but there are those under a Daddy Dom that do.  

Yet, that is not me.  I am more of the submissive that likes to have a bit of discipline play, be able to have that “little” side of pouting, enjoy coloring and watching or reading Disney or happy movies.  That is not my normal day-to-day persona but it is there.  It gives me a chance to break away from responsibilities and just be silly for a while.

I also like to curl up on the couch, read, have quiet time, and just enjoy being me as an adult.  Writing, listening to music, having a good glass of wine and having me time.  As some would call, self-care time.  Everyone needs that kind of time.  

Not only submissives, but Dominants as well.  It’s very important for a relationship to have the time for self-care.  Each partner doing this is better at being more responsive and better communicators.  When they are able to have the time to regroup, take care of themselves and feel better about themselves before coming back to the partnership that needs to be strong, it helps.  I have seen it and experienced it.  [Oh! Went off on a tangent….oops!]

So, my take on the whole Titles and Labels is yes, I agree with them and these (above) are the ones I am into.  

Do you agree? Or like other ones better?

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