Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?
Honestly, all relationships, whether BDSM or vanilla should all be looked at in the same way when keeping the relationship healthy. There should be trust and communication in any relationship, whether vanilla or BDSM. Unfortunately that is not how things work most of the time, which is sad.
In a BDSM relationship it is extremely important to keep the lines of communication open and be honest at all times about things. If you don’t have this on a normal basis someone can actually get really hurt. Whether in play or regular daily routine.
A vanilla relationship should be treated the same, but unfortunately the everyday life and daily routines get in the way, for most people, of communication and making sure you are both honest with things. This is how relationships break down and things go wrong. It’s where a couple splits apart because there is no communication, no understanding, no honesty because each person is just trying to get through each day.
Don’t get me wrong, it happens with BDSM relationships as well. But it should not happen, per the experts and those that realize how important it is to have a healthy relationship in BDSM. You can’t be Safe Sane and Consensual if you can’t communicate, be honest with one another and trust. At least that is my take on it.
What do you think?
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