It’s amazing to me how many different views of this lifestyle there are out there. What I feel is the right view others would not agree with. And I in turn do not always agree with others’ views.
To me, personally, I understand the D/s lifestyle to be a growing ever-changing relationship between Dom and sub. Yes, there is the constant power exchange in what is right and wrong, Top/bottom, etc… Yes, there is the leadership/order in the Dom and the following/answering in the sub (per se). But that love is always there. Guiding the two in the life they love and the lifestyle they crave and need with one another.
Everyone has their own beliefs and needs in the lifestyle of BDSM. No person is wrong in what they believe is their way. Do not hate or put down what others enjoy and believe in. It is their choice and as long as it is safe, sane and consensual between the adults taking part, it is to their own choosing.
I have gone through a lot in the past few years and am so thankful I found this way of life. I believe it is the reason I am stronger today than I was a few years ago. I believe it gives me even more strength than I have ever had before. I love the person I have become and am continuing to be. I have the support of an ever-loving Dom that guides, supports, nurtures and protects me always. His love carries me on through each day. I am determined every day to make him happy and show him how very much he means to me.
One thing I love about this lifestyle is that it is an always changing, always developing, always moving thing. To me it does not get stagnant and does not get boring. We try, and learn, new things, new ways of doing things; in play, life and sexual means. We spur one another on, in writing, learning, feelings, and just everything. It warms my soul to know how much we mean to each other. He is my muse and I am his.
I know when one of us is feeling down, we can normally lift the other up just by talking, hearing the other’s voice, listening and talking through things. We are so in tune to each other we usually know when something is not quite right and needs to be dealt with and communicated. It’s not always like this. We have to work at it always. But we do come back around to it through us trusting in one another and talking it out.
My view of this lifestyle is most likely very mild compared to many. It is a deep relationship to me. Not only is it D/s, a bit of S/M, but a relationship that can last a lifetime.